Is this perimenopause and how long do I have?

[JKDcot]

Ive always had very regular cycles but last few months it’s been shorter time frame and lighter flow. I am 40 and understand that perimenopause can start around now.

Is this the start of the end of my fertility? How long do I have for even the hope of getting pregnant? I have no other perimenopause symptoms and haven’t had any fertility tests. Just after any experiences please

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Peri menopause can last up to ten years
Might be worth talking to your gp ?? 🫂💐

I just took a blood test and waiting for results to see what is happening

If you’re looking to conceive don’t delay with the investigations. NHS is pretty hopeless when you’re over 40. At least get some of the preliminary tests done privately and skip the queue many cut off ivf at 41 and you’d be still waiting to be seen.
ask for numbers when you get bloods back mine told me a year ago all was fine and I just found out it wasn’t. GPS and fertility don’t necessarily go hand in hand. They will k oh test your FSH if that is elevated then. A show peri . You also need AMH done which nsh won’t do
also get a scan for measuring womb lining …. which decreases with age, this is the problem I have and means I get pregnant but lose straight away. Along with the crap eggs and stuff 🤦‍♀️

Thank you @Oldandtrying23 for your advice. I’m sorry to hear of your losses

I hope to get the blood test results this week for FSH

Sorry hope that made sense- I read it back 🤦‍♀️ 😂 good luck hope your figures are better than mine were.
To get a true reflection they should do FSH on day 2/3 of your period as it can fluctuate. Not sure if they have told you that x

Thank you yes I took the test on day 3 so hoping for an ok result. I know there are many more factors to consider but at least it’s a start.

my main issue (sorry for the over share) is my husband thinks we are too old to even try so we are still discussing. My opinikn is if it’s going to be hard and potentially won’t even be possible what’s the harm in trying. Feeling a bit sad about the whole thing to be honest. Hope you are in a better place

@Oldandtrying23 sorry forgot to tag you in my last message

Oh no , 40 isnt too old but that’s something unfortunately you both have to be on the same page on. Especially if you did end up down ivf route as that’s incredibly difficult.
I’ll be honest I’m sat here having done another test knowing full well what the result will be but questioning every blinking boob ache or ovary twinge… definition of insanity 🤦‍♀️🤣🤣 hope you get an outcome for both of you
@JKDcot

Thank you @Oldandtrying23 I really hope you get the baby you want xx

My periods started getting lighter age 42. We wanted a second DC but couldn't afford IVF so kept trying naturally. Conceived age 44, delivered a healthy baby age 45. Everyone's fertility is different of course so this doesn't really help! In your shoes I would (well, did) keep trying. It might be harder to fall (& stay) pregnant once you hit peri but ultimately so long as you are ovulating there is a possibility. My understanding was that the best guide was when your mum (& aunts etc) stopped their periods but again, everyone is an individual so it wouldn't give more than a very rough idea. Good luck xx

That’s good to hear . I still live in hope! We could do ivf once but I see the odds the same as natural at this point.

Thank you for sharing your story @thejadefish that’s wonderful news

I got good results from my FSH test so am going to broach the subject again with my husband about trying. Fingers crossed!

sending best wishes to you @Oldandtrying23 too

That’s good news, pleased for you! Good luck 🤞

What's your husbands issue with age? Not meaning that to sound nasty. Does he think you are too old for children or that you won't conceive?
I was 26 and my husband 35 when we started trying, all the tests said there was nothing wrong with either of us yet no pregnancy. 3 cycles of IVF and still nothing. We ended up adopting when I was 37 and then again when my husband was 50. She's nearly 12 now. All that really is to say if he thinks he's too old for children he's not.

Not sure if you got your outcome. Hope you did. Unfortunately for me just had a succession of losses now. 6 at last count. 44 now turning 45 in a few weeks. Am now on full pelt HRT , strangely fell pregnant within the first month of it must have been missing hormones .. however lost it just as quick. Have made peace with myself that it’s not going to happen. I’ve not got a bad life and am grateful for that. Good luck to those still trying 🙏🏻

@Oldandtrying23 sorry to hear about your experience and losses it must be so tough.

im in a very similar situation, age 42 and been trying for 1 year but no luck. Its devastating.

sending you best wishes

Have you looked into why you're losing them?

I’m just not conceiving. I conceived my
son first cycle and just naively thought it would be OK. Feel very very sad and disappointed. I knew the stats after 40 were bad but it’s hard when it is your truth.

@Oldandtrying23 Im so sorry you were able to conceive and lose the pregnancy. That must be so hard x

Thank you. I hope you get your outcome. I conceived my first at 42 and although I lost it , that was my longest pregnancy. So it is very possible. I would get your hormones tested if you can because little things make a difference.