Pregnant and partner not who I thought he was.

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Hi,

I’m currently 29 weeks pregnant, I already have children from a previous relationship too.

I have recently found out my now ex parter had a gambling problem which is serious, he has been lying to about lots of finical things.

Since this has happened he has called me constantly despite me saying I don’t wish to speak with him and he has made threats to end his life. Implied he can’t ever be happy if he is not with me etc, it’s a lot. I feel emotionally drained.

I didn’t have any worries about his behaviour before but decided to make a Claire’s law application because he has a difficult relationship with his ex partner who he shares a child with. I’m actually not allowed to share information about what they told me but the same sort of things happened threats to end his life etc and I’m just devastated about it. He told me he had never suffered from mental health issues and whilst I believe the threats to end his life are to control it’s just really upsetting to know he has behaved like this before too.

I don’t think they’re is any coming back from this. I now have to try and co parent with him. Any advice please?

You do not have to try and co parent with someone who has previous past of controlling behaviour and is showing signs of this now.

You are able to stand in court and tell them for the safety of you and your child, this is mentally draining and its mental and emotional abuse which the courts will not stand for. They will not see him as a fit parent if this is what hes like. Whatever you have found out under claires law you will be able to use in court as you have done this for your own safety and wellbeing as well as your childs as you clearly had concerns.

Please get in touch with someone regarding his behaviour before it gets any worse and he begins stalking or something worse.

The whole reason he has a file against his name under claires law is because his ex has reported the same issue.

Thanks for replying. She did report him and she took him to court but he still got access to his Son. He was ordered to see him in a contact centre 6 times and then he has been able to see him on a regular basis. His ex has made it difficult and now I understand why however now it’s happened again maybe the courts will see it differently.

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