Inconclusive scan - Fatner looking for some advice

[BabyDaddy01]

Hi all,

Father
here looking for some advice or positive stories :-)

So
last Friday (8th) my wife and I went for an early reassurance scan which
unfortunately, was inconclusive. My wife had a US and TV scan and the
sonographer said that she could see the gestational sac and yolk but no foetus.
She said that it might just be that it's a bit too soon. She said to come back in 10 days for a rescan.

By my wife’s calculations, she would have been 8 weeks + 4 days at the scan but
the sonographer measured her at 6 weeks and 3 days. The first day of her last
period was 9th of Jan. I'm no expert in women’s health unfortunately, so please
excuse me if I have gotten anything wrong.

Anyhow, she has another scan booked in for a week today and we're hoping that all will be ok and it was just too early to see anything.

She has had the usual symptoms (fatigue, tender boobs, feeling sick etc). She has also had a tiny bit of spotting on 2 occasions (very, very light in the
discharge) but no pain. She said she feels a TINY amount of pain but it's so
mild that she isn't even sure she'd consider it pain. She said it might even be
trapped wind.

Has anyone here had a similar experience with a scan at this amount of time? I feel pretty helpless and I'm just looking for some support really. My wife is away with work for a few days now and I'm just sat around worrying.

Thank you in advance for any advice or support you're able to provide.

I had a positive test on 18 feb. Although I wasn’t expecting a pregnancy so didn’t bother doing it any earlier. My menstrual cycles sometimes are 5 weeks + or 6 weeks at the most. My last cycle prior to pregnancy was 4 weeks and 2 days (the odd occasion this happens). What do you think could be happening with my pregnancy?

Do you know when you ovulated, or when your last period was @Sunshine278 ? That is how pregnancy is calculated, so for the technically for the first 2 weeks of your pregnancy you aren’t actually pregnant as those are before ovulation, but it’s how pregnancy is counted. If you’ve had a positive test and no reason to think otherwise, assume a healthy pregnancy. Congratulations x

My last period started 7 Jan. no idea about ovulation as this was not a planned baby! I have 2 boys already and was focussing on my career and then got the positive test and feel like my life has turned upside down!
I went for a private scan at 7 weeks 1 day (based on my LMP) but only a gestational sac was showing and a faint yolk sac although the lady wasn’t 100% sure. I have a scan on Friday to check again.

and thank you x

I see. So based off this - it’s not looking good at all…

Sorry to hear you’re in the same
situation. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you and will check back (if you decide to post an update that is). Stay well.

Thank you! Fingers crossed for you too. I’ll definitely come back on to update on Friday as I think your wife’s scan is next week so if it’s something positive then I am sure that will ease your nerves a bit!

I will cross my fingers for you…..but I think this is yet another example of why “reassurance scans “ can be anything but!!

100%

i think what is making this so much worse is reading stories of people who have had similar and have been ok and people saying that yeah, it’s not looking good. It’s hard to hold on to hope but also hard to just let go and accept that it might not turn out well.

@Sunshine278
Hi. Did you have another scan today?

@BabyDaddy01
How are you doing? Is your wife still feeling pregnant?

I did, unfortunately bad news for me, an empty gestational sac only. So I am having a small surgery next week to remove the pregnancy.

I'm very sorry. I've been through that myself and it's just so sad.

Thank you. Yes, not sure how to process it tbh. It’s strange how your body can behave in one way and actually the complete opposite is happening. And to think I would have gotten to my 12 week scan and wouldn’t know any better! I only found out as I went for a private scan to start off with.

That's a good point. You might have started bleeding before then, or lost all your symptoms. Who knows?

I used to dread being scanned. It was so often bad news for me.

But I think you've made the right choice in going for surgical management. I've seen a number of horrifying threads by women who had medical management, and who went through weeks of bleeding, then had an ERPC anyway.

It's a very sad time. I do feel for you.

My 12 week scan is only 2 weeks away so yes I guess it could go either way.

tbh I’d actually picked medical management. Then read the notes they gave me and it said you could bleed for 3 weeks, and might eventually need surgical management so I thought I’d save myself the misery of that! Did you have surgical management? If so how did you find it?

I did have surgical management, every time.
(I had a large number of miscarriages).

I think it's easier to get the thing done, without all the pain and blood loss concomitant with medical management.

You can also TTC fairly quickly if you want, and use the day of your surgery as your LMP. Most women ovulate within the first two weeks after it. With medical management, it can drag on for weeks, literally.

I’m so sorry to hear that. Don’t know how you would have dealt with this multiple times.
thanks for the information. I was just hesitant because of the general anaesthetic but looks like lots go with this option.

Hi @BabyDaddy01

How did the scan go?

Hi @TheShellBeach
Thanks for reaching out.

Unfortunately there was no change :-(. But at least now we know and we can move on.

It’s sad but it’s just an unfortunate part of the journey for so many people. We have a 2.5 year old daughter so we are fortunate. We will try again and whatever happens, happens.

Thanks again for reaching out and thank you to everyone on here for your comments.

I’m very sorry to hear this @Sunshine278

I hope you’re doing ok. My thoughts are with you right now. Please take care of yourself.

I'm very sorry to see your update @BabyDaddy01

It's horrible to lose a baby.