3rd degree tear and bowel issues

[Mumofonexo]

Hi, I’m nearly 7 months pp from a forceps delivery and 3b tear. My urgency is very sporadic some days but wind control seems to be getting better however, this week unfortunately I wasn’t quick enough getting to the toilet and some liquid stool come out. I haven’t had issues in months until now.

I’m just wondering if anyone else had a few issues in the first year and if thing slowly got better? 🥺

Are you seeing a physio regularly? My best friend had a horrible delivery, tore all the way too, she ended up paying for a private physio and she had sessions every week for about 8 months. It was very intense and time consuming (and expensive) but she's doing very well now. You shouldn't live with this, please seek more help 🙏

I'm not sure how Mumsnet works but you can always contact me if you need to vent. And please do keep us updated with your scan. St the moment I would recommend Imodium , it was my life saver for many years, it allowed me to have a life. ❤️

@FirstTime867
Hey yes I’m under physio. I might book a few private appointments too as the nhs ones are very short and sweet. I’m pleased to hear your friend is doing well. Thank you, I’m due to have an anal scan soon which will show how well I’ve healed (or not) I’m just praying everything is ok x

@Bonnybairn
Thank you that’s ever so kind! I will drop you a message 💗 I totally agree about Imodium! If I haven’t been to the bathroom before leaving the house I always take one. I’ve recently found out you can get it on prescription too! Xx

I’m so sorry your birth experience was so traumatic ❤️ I agree that tears are not discussed enough. I found it really mentally hard to come to terms with at the time because I didn’t have a good enough understanding of what had actually happened to me.

I don’t remember exactly how long it took but I would say that definitely by a year PP I felt less of an urgency to go. I’m pregnant again in my second trimester and was initially worried I would regress but so far, my pelvic floor has felt pretty strong and I’ve been able to control my bowels if needed, which is a good sign!

Really hope your recovery goes well ❤️

@PolkaDotDot
Thank you 💗 I did originally want to have an elective c section but was talked out of it by doctors and midwives 😔 I really wish I had stuck to my guns.

I’m sorry to hear you had such a tough time too.

I’m just hoping everything gets better soon and it’s just a blip in the recovery process. I would love to give my child a sibling in a few years (via c section) but I want to be fully recovered myself first.

so pleased to hear you are doing so well with your pregnancy and congratulations!

Thank you so much 💗