Surprise pregnancy early in relationship - success stories

[CleoSolILove]

Just that, does anybody have any success stories of couples who have found out they are expecting very early on in their relationship & things worked out well for them? I have only been with my boyfriend for three months although we have lived together most of that time. He is lovely, has met my family and friends and I’ve met his, have been on holiday together etc - he’s also being very supportive and not trying to push me into a decision either way although I think he wants to keep it. My mum is the same. I told a friend yesterday and her first reaction was that it was “so fast” which has upset me, I know it IS objectively fast and she is coming from a good place but this wasn’t planned and I’m not some naive person thinking this is all going to end wonderfully, in fact I am in terror all the time that the opposite is true. I know from friends and relatives who have had babies just how difficult it is and what a strain so I’m not looking for any more comments like that (though I get they are valid), I am just looking for any positivity! 🥺

My best friend was in this exact position 10 years ago and got pregnant very quickly after 3 months in, they’ve since had a second and are still together now - 2 kids and a house. It can definitely work

I fell pregnant when with my other half after 2 months complete whoops I was on the pill! We had our little boy who is now nearly 8, have had a second baby bought a house together and currently trying for our 3rd baby!

DH and I met, moved in together, got engaged and had our first baby within the first year. 32 years later we are still very much in love with each other. We had plenty of detractors saying we weren't suited and we moved too fast and of course, we will never last. At the time we ignored them and even now we laugh that ALL of them were so very wrong.

It can definitely work. I had a friend who fell pregnant less than a month after they started seeing someone. 22 years later they are still happily together

Yes. My friend got pregnant after only six weeks with her boyfriend, over 25 years later they are still happily together.

Me and my partner were together 5 months when we found out we were pregnant. We're coming up to 2 years, 2 miscarriages and one baby on the way. We're still strong and have a house together. It can work you just need to work at it as well.

In regards to this topic there will be plenty of success stories and ones that unfortunately are not. But as you said you are not naive which is a good start.

Mine personally was a success story and that is because I now have a 14 DD who I would not change for the world. Me and her dad had been seeing each other for a few months then we got together and we was officially together for 4 weeks we was so happy we had done meet the parents etc. Then we did the deed and the first time we did that I fell pregnant and we know this as we did it once then he had to work away for a week then then I was away on a holiday for 10 days then I was due my period and it didn’t come. So to say it was a shock it was early into our relationship plus I was on the pill. We decided to keep and remained in a relationship until my DD was 18 months when we just had to go our separate ways. We have both moved on and have both since then married and I couldn’t wish for a better stepmother and stepfather for my DD. My DD’S bio father is amazing we have always had a great relationship when it comes to raising our DD and talk often and always talk if we have difference of opinions which is not often which is great. My DD’s bio father has 4 other children with his wife and I often have them overnight and take them on days out as I see them as my DD’s siblings not as my exs kids and as I always say the children didn’t do anything wrong and its nice to see my DD and her siblings relationship myself. It’s also nice they have a relationship with me and dont just see me as DD’s mom. So yeah like you said things are not always wonderful as per books and films but you can always have your own wonderful that you created and my wonderful is just getting better as I am now expecting baby number 2 due October 2024 with my DH.

(Plus it also helps now we are in the 21st century so it is also more sociably acceptable to have stepchildren)

But whatever you decide do it for you and no one else as its your body and do what makes you happy. A child’s love and bond will last forever no matter of other relationships. Sorry for the long essay. But good luck for the future to you and your bf. :) xx @CleoSolILove

Yep. Me and DP. 2 months in. Although we had worked at the same company previously so weren’t complete strangers, but it was all VERY new.
It was a hectic year moving into a new place together, getting ready for baby, I had terrible morning sickness right up until my third trimester so there was a lot going on.
DS is now 4 and we have absolutely no regrets. We’re getting married in the summer and shortly after will be trying for baby number 2.
It can work but it depends on so many different factors. For us, it was a first child for both of us so we were both just sort of muddling through, trying our best and making it up as we went. We were on the same page about a lot of things and value each other’s approach to parenting, so we just became an instant team overnight. DP was there at every appointment, every scan, picked up the slack when I wasn’t able to, very much committed to my decision to continue the pregnancy, and our decision to parent DS to the best of our abilities. Even before he was born I knew that even if our relationship didn’t work he would be an involved dad.

Conversely, I have a friend who was with ex DH for 12 years. They did all the “right” things in the “right” order, then had a baby and the relationship began to fall apart. They had had so much time as just the two of them they had gotten used to a certain lifestyle. Having a baby upended that lifestyle and changed the dynamic of their relationship. They divorced when their daughter was 2.5.

Having a baby can strain any relationship regardless of how long you’ve been together. There are never any guarantees, you just have to make your choices and accept what becomes of them.