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Feel so anxious about being sober 9 months

31 replies

Iamtheimposter · 07/03/2024 19:04

Hi, I’m in the very early stages of pregnancy still so aware there’s still a risk of miscarriage etc. this pregnancy was a bit of a shock for me and my partner and we’re both in shock mourning the loss of the summer we had planned, walks, hikes and drinks in the beer garden. I know that sounds incredibly selfish but does that resonate with anyone else? I’m feeling extremely nervous about 9 months without booze and smoking, and feeling almost depressed about it. In my first pregnancy I was 21 and fresh faced, and didn’t use booze to cope so was a breeze but several years later of working full time with a child and I use it to cope with the stress, my partner is a drinker too and we both like our pub trips. It’s stupid because I really want this baby but the shock of it means I’m just struggling to be excited at all… I’m wondering if anyone has felt like this before… is this normal?
I’ve done dry January this year so I know it’s doable… I’m just sad thinking about our friends wedding coming up which will now be sober, sober summer holidays etc. argh. Am I just being daft?

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FirstTimeMum897 · 08/03/2024 20:54

I don't have a drinking problem, I had max 2 glasses of wine twice a week pre-pregnancy. I was always the designated driver as I didn't mind going without alcohol at any social event.

But now I'm pregnant I HATE it. I just want a fucking glass of wine and I really resent DH for drinking, it's just another way in which his life has had zero impact while I have to deal with the absolute torture and shit that is pregnancy.

It's ok to feel how you do and recognize if you did have a problem (as long as you do indeed stay away from the wine!!)

Sara1988 · 08/03/2024 21:36

Some of the comments on here are judgy af.

Drinking is fun. I'm gonna miss getting drunk with my partner too. But you'll get through it and will have lots to celebrate once baby is here.

Catopia · 09/03/2024 07:51

There's no reason you can't still going walking and hiking (I mean, I'd maybe give Crib Goch a miss but just hill walking you're fine). And have an alcohol beer in the beer garden, although given how worried you are about not having alcohol, maybe making an effort to find soft drinks that you can enjoy in this setting would be helpful. Remember that this baby needs a sober parent to look after them once they are born as well.

I stopped drinking when we started TTC (I wasn't a big drinker anyway), and my OH has been great and has switched to alcohol free at home as well. If he goes to the pub with friend will drink but he hasn't been drinking in front of me out of respect, even though I wouldn't mind if he did want to.

Rosesanddaisies1 · 09/03/2024 09:39

Sara1988 · 08/03/2024 21:36

Some of the comments on here are judgy af.

Drinking is fun. I'm gonna miss getting drunk with my partner too. But you'll get through it and will have lots to celebrate once baby is here.

Yes but missing it is very different to having genuine anxiety about not being able to drink. That’s a problem.

Sara1988 · 09/03/2024 09:44

Rosesanddaisies1 · 09/03/2024 09:39

Yes but missing it is very different to having genuine anxiety about not being able to drink. That’s a problem.

Edited

It's clearly not about the alcohol, it's the experiences that go with it. And even if she did have a problem, some of the comments are needlessly unpleasant

bumblebutt28 · 09/03/2024 09:46

I get what you mean. When I found out I was pregnant I did sort of look into the future at all the events I had coming up where I'd usually drink (weddings, festivals, Christmas!) and wonder how I'd cope. But it was fine when it came around. You just adjust.

I even - gasp - had the odd glass of wine during pregnancy. Never more than one but it's fine.

Be aware you will get told that you are selfish/an alcoholic to be feeling this way. MN is generally quite extreme and weird about booze.

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