6 week scan empty sac, measuring 4 weeks

[cpfmw]

I don’t know why I’m writing a post as I know no one can tell me for sure but I feel like I am losing my mind and I have no one to talk to.

I had a miscarriage in January and got pregnant again as soon as I ovulated. I cannot believe we have been so unlucky but at a private 6 week scan yesterday (I have had a very tiny amount of light pink discharge but obviously terrified from the previous miscarriage) it looks as if the sac is empty and is measuring at 4 weeks rather than 6. I am 100% on my dates.

The sonographer did say to have a rescan and there is a small possibility the pregnancy could progress but surely this is highly unlikely? My next scan is a week on Monday at EPU and I cannot wait this long. To be honest I just want to have a massive bleed and have it over and done with. All I want to do is drink a massive glass /bottle of wine, chain smoke and cry (mature reaction I know).

What are other people’s experiences with this?
Also how on earth do you carry on as normal dealing with bad news? I have a 17 month old son and if it wasn’t for him I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed.

To add that obviously one of my best friends is pregnant, similar number of weeks. She had a
bleed and went to the EPU and saw a heartbeat etc and everything was fine. I’m not wishing a miscarriage on her but just feels like an additional punch to the gut when we’ve been trying since August and now had (potentially) two back to back miscarriages.

I’m so sorry to hear this and sending you the best of wishes.

I found the months (and in the end years) trying for a baby the hardest of my life, and I also had two miscarriages before both my successes pregnancies and it felt like the world was against me. I think it’s totally normal to be upset and grieve, and to feel selfish too (I also had my two best friends pregnant just after one of my miscarriages and I was so very bitter!!). Don’t beat yourself up, take the time out to loook after yourself and grieve, but also try to stay positive. You have been blessed with a beautiful child already, and it is a good sign that you can get pregnant, even if it wasn’t meant to be with these two. You will get pregnant again, and in the long run time will heal.

Good luck and take care

I’m really sorry you’re going through this OP, I’m sure you already know that it’s very unlikely to be good news.

I had 3 miscarriages between my first and second child, I know how utterly devastating it is. Please push for a referral, my doctor put me on low dose aspirin after the first loss and progesterone after my third - all my losses were early, before 6 weeks, and I do believe the progesterone is the reason I had a healthy pregnancy after my losses x

What date did you ovulate?

Thank you. I really really appreciate your replies, I feel like none of my friends understand and my husband is trying to be helpful and is so kind but is struggling in his own way and I think is unsure of what to say.

Good advice on the referral @DrunkenElephant . I will query this at my NHS scan.

Thanks again xx

3/2 xxx

Hello, I'm afraid I have no advice or outcome to share, I just wanted to say I could have written this post myself.

I miscarried my first pregnancy in January this year at 5 weeks. I fell pregnant again straight away, which was a shock, so went for a 6+4 reassurance (HA) scan on Thursday and they dated me 5+3, yolk sac but no foetal pole. I was surprised as I've had no symptoms this entire pregnancy thus far, but my tests were still getting stronger and stronger, so I'd had hope.

I am 100% certain of when I ovulated and should have been 6+1 absolute earliest. I'd joined the October due date group and people there were seeing their embryos with heartbeats from 5+5. I feel like life is pointless now. Just endless waiting for the worst to happen.

I have a scan at EPU next Thursday and then they will talk to me about medical management if I haven't started naturally by then. I just don't know how to cope during the wait. Every day feels like a day wasted. It's a grief like nothing else and it feels like being forced to physically carry it with us until someone else decides it's time. I do understand the procedures and plenty of people get their dates wrong or measure behind, but not when ovulation was confirmed and not by 8 whole days this early. The only reason I get out of bed at the moment is so I don't lose my job. I have no children.

I'm sorry you're going through this and really hope you get the magical, positive outcome we all dream of ❤️

So sorry, OP. This has happened to me a few times and I know what a kick in the teeth it is to happen AGAIN when you feel you should surely be due a better run of things.

Yes, it might still be OK. Some pregnancies measure way behind and either catch up at the next scan or just keep growing on track. Sadly my last two that measured behind continued to grow slowly, and ended in MMC although both at one point had a heartbeat. I'm willing the outcome to be different for you but the vast majority of situations like this mean a non-viable pregnancy.

I hope I'm not being too brutal. When it was me I googled incessantly looking for positive endings to this scenario. I know how much we all want it to be OK and how helpless you feel in the midst of it. I really really hope you get a good outcome but am sending solidarity and all the good vibes in the meantime.

I am honestly sending you so much love what a horrible situation xxx
I hope the coming months are more positive for you xxx it will happen for both of us I’m sure xx

Thanks for your message. It’s not too brutal, to be honest I just wanted to talk about it with people who have been through the same thing xxx

How was Thursday @KittyFantastica ? Xxx

Hi @cpfmw, how are you feeling? Your scan is in a couple of days time, right?

We actually had a huge shock on Thursday. I am so grateful for this community because I did a lot of reading and prepared myself. I knew which questions I wanted to ask and I was about 90% sure on how I wanted to manage things going forward.

Except that within a minute of beginning the internal scan (should have been external past 7 weeks, but I explained they wouldn't see anything), she said "We've got a little baby with a heartbeat." I cannot describe to you the shock. I still haven't really had any symptoms. I don't feel pregnant at all. Many tears were shed.

However, my husband and I are still very much guarding our hearts. Baby is measuring 8 days behind and I am 100% certain of ovulation, implantation and the day I got my first positive. The heartbeat was a little on the low side too. So, unfortunately, we are now in a second limbo period as we have to wait two more weeks for a rescan to see if there has been any more progress. It can very much go either way.

While I'm extremely grateful to have got to see our little flickering blob, I'm still struggling to connect and feel pregnant. It's not the experience anyone hopes for and all I feel is anxiety. If things turn out well, I hope that can change. If they don't turn out well, then I know what my options are and what I will likely choose.

I have everything crossed so, so tightly for you for a Monday.

Ah! I am honestly so so happy for you!! That is amazing you really deserve some good news however tentative.

I am feeling okay, still very tired (which is hard with a crazy 17m!) but all other pregnancy symptoms gone. Not holding out any hope and just want Monday over and done with xx

Sending loads of love and crossing my fingers for you x

Hi all, hope you're all doing okay.

Only a quick update from me before I leave for a while. Unfortunately, we had confirmation this morning that baby stopped growing last week. I'm booked in for a D&C on Friday.

Wishing you all the best with your journeys, whatever they entail.