Conversations around reduced movements

[Robkiss]

Since going into the hospital with reduced movements around new year my mother in law constantly asks if I've felt the baby move, if movements are normal etc I know she's concerned but so am I and I find being asked really stress inducing. Sometimes I havnt felt the baby move for a while and sometimes I am wondering whether the movements have been normal that day and I hate being asked. It's usually over dinner and I don't know how to respond. she asked last night and it all spiralled and ended with us going into the hospital again. Baby and movements were fine. I wish she'd stop asking me. How do I ask her to stop asking me about the babies movements? Or do I ask her? Am I being overly sensitive? Anyone else been in the same boat?

I would find this so annoying, is she implying there’s an issue that you’re not dealing with, and it needs her to micromanage it because you can’t be trusted to think about the babies movements? Or is she just passing her own anxieties to you? Either way I’d hate it.

However I think you probably need to manage your own anxiety so it doesn’t affect you as much. Someone asking a question shouldn’t lead you to going to hospital, because you’re going to be there a lot if that’s the case! Same with once the baby is born, if she asks lots of questions about his health you’re going to be in the same situation.
that said, I think you can just be honest, tell her you’re feeling a bit anxious and you know she means well, but it’s not something you want to talk about all the time. You’ll tell her if there’s a problem and otherwise she can trust that you’re already monitoring the situation.

or just make a joke of it and start saying gosh no. The babies not moved for weeks now you mention it! So she’s aware of how unhelpful her question really is.