Second child?

[Hopingandwaiting2021]

I have a lovely boy who is 2 and I think deep down I would like another baby but I'm worried I wouldn't cope.
I had post natal anxiety first time round and found that hard to navigate. We also don't have any family support (no grandparent help etc). Additionally I don't drive so logistics can be tough already...
But ideally I would like my son to have a sibling. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Do I ignore the doubts and go for it?

@Hopingandwaiting2021 could have written this myself at one point!

My eldest is 3, once he turned 1 I started thinking about baby no2. I knew I wanted another baby, but he wasn’t easy as a newborn (didn’t sleep much at night, breastfeeding was a big fail, was very unsettled etc), so safe to say I was really rather nervous about the idea of looking after a newborn (who potentially could have been the same as my eldest) whilst running around after a toddler!

I also do not drive so it’s not as simple as driving to mums for the day for a break etc.

Any way, when DS1 was around 18m we just went for it because each month that went by I just knew I wanted to be pregnant more and more.

I had quite bad sickness but just got through it. I can’t tell you how, but it couldn’t have been that bad because I barely remember the first few months of my second pregnancy now! I just did it.

Second son’s birth was amazing, he was TOTALLY different to his brother (and still is in so, so many ways). They are not similar in the slightest (looks wise or personality).

DS2 is about to turn 1, they are forming a lovely bond (there is jealousy from DS1 don’t get me wrong) but as DS2 gets older, I can see them becoming good friends and they love eachother to bits.

Only you can make the decision but ultimately if you don’t feel ‘done’ i’d say go for it! You will love it and you got this! X

@Hopingandwaiting2021 Oh sorry should have mentioned… DS1 is also part time at nursery now and started a couple of months before baby was born, which MASSIVELY helps. If your DS is not currently attending nursery, if he is eligible now or before a new baby would arrive (or if your financial situation allows this), then definitely consider sending him. You will need the break if you don’t have much family support x

Thank you so much @Bunbum it's so good to hear from someone who has felt the same! I think I probably just need to go for it 😬😁

You will have tough times, but then you’ll have (and probably do) have tough times with one child! I found going from 1-2 absolutely fine. Going from zero responsibility to looking after your first baby will always be way more difficult in terms of adjustment in my eyes! Best of luck OP x