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Overcapacity4 · 20/02/2024 09:29

Hi, I’m feeling very guilty for wanting to start my maternity leave early at 32 weeks and doubting it’s the right decision. Wondering if anyone else has been in a similar position and what you decided to do.

I’ve had a very difficult pregnancy starting with shingles in the first trimester, low Papp-a causing a high risk edwards/patau’s result (which was negative after the nipt thankfully), HG, and then recently I’ve been diagnosed with GD and PGP. I’m struggling to sleep at night and in turn focus in work the next day, struggling to sit at a desk for long enough to do my work with the pain, still being sick frequently, etc.

I’ve had two admissions for bleeding/reduced movements and am already on fortnightly scans for problems with the placenta/umbilical cord pressure. I’ve also been told I’ll be unlikely to go past 38 weeks with GD and the baby already measuring big - and to be prepared for her to potentially come before that.

I’ve also got the option of asking the GP to sign me off sick until 36 weeks but I’ve already had three weeks off sick in this pregnancy so feel a bit like I’d be taking the mick? Work are also not super accommodating it’s a predominantly male high pressure environment although I do get 6 months full maternity pay.

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MizzMarple · 20/02/2024 09:38

I’m stopping work at 26 weeks (using my annual leave first) and I can’t wait. Some people have easy pregnancies and some don’t. I kind of feel the guilt but you get a set amount of leave so use it how you want. Some people want to work until the last possible minute and some don’t. Either choice is fine.

LBNM19 · 20/02/2024 09:58

I think if you are financially able to start mat leave then do!

I have been really unwell too so I understand.

I’m 26 weeks pregnant and had hyperemesis at the start. I was off for around 10 weeks with that and I’m off this week too due to anaemia starting a course of iron and hoping to be back asap but I do also feel bad for being off.

I am going to have to try and work until 37 weeks but I really don’t want to.

Mangotango39 · 20/02/2024 09:59

theres no right or wrong time to go off.
you have an amazing package of payment therefore if you can afford it, go off. Put yourself first and no one else's opinion matters x

Olika · 20/02/2024 10:11

If you can afford it then go for it. Personally I would get signed off by GP as anyway in both cases you are not going to be at work. I wouldn't give a damn about your male colleagues not getting it,

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