Trigger Warning - Pregnancy loss/MC

[Bb542]

Hi everyone,

I'm currently experiencing a miscarriage. I'm meant to be 6 weeks and 6 days pregnant but a scan today showed the gestational sac is only measuring 4 weeks and 6 days. Heavy bleeding has now started so unfortunately it looks like I'm miscarrying. I've been referred to the EPU for further investigation.

This was my first ever pregnancy and naturally I'm absolutely heartbroken. However I'm also experiencing a little bit of pain in my groin and a lot of cramping. Not to mention my emotions are all over the place 😔

Just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with this? I don't know how I can go into work tomorrow. I'm a teacher, it's so hard to pretend everything is ok. Would my doctor sign me off work for a few days while I deal with this? Not sure what the protocol is/if I should be resting etc. Any advice anyone has would be greatly appreciated. I feel so lost and empty right now.

Thank you ❤️

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been there and it’s an awful thing to go through.

If you can, please take some time off work. The amount of discomfort and bleeding varies but allow yourself some time to recover physically and mentally. Even if it’s just to curl up on the sofa and watch TV. It will allow you some time to grieve.

My employer has a bereavement policy to cover miscarriage but worthwhile talking to your GP to see if you can be signed off for a bit.

Lots of love to you ❤️

Hello,
I am so sorry for your loss. As part of the senior leadership team in a school I can absolutely tell you that you should take some time off. Please contact the headteacher or your line manager directly and explain to them what you’re going through. You can not be expected to work.

@Bb542 I am so sorry to see it’s you posting this 😢💔
I have been there too, and it’s heartbreaking.
Please don’t even think about going into work tomorrow or even this week (I took quite a few weeks off work) - you need to be okay physically AND emotionally 😔
My employer also had pregnancy loss policy, but the GP will 100% be able to sign you off

So sorry 💔 x

I'm so sorry for your loss, I would absolutely take time off work I went through the same thing last year and took 4 weeks off. It was the hardest thing I have ever went through both physically and mentally, from my experience the pain got increasingly worse with very heavy bleeding so you need to take time to rest with painkillers and a hot water bottle, but as well as the pain the mental side of things can also take a toll so you need time to take care of this too. Wishing you well and look after yourself

So sorry for your loss , I lost my first baby a day shy of 7 weeks. I was in shock didnt know what to do and I stupidly went into work the next day how or why I dont know I think I was just on auto pilot. Don't go into work I'm sure your GP would sign you off you need time to come to terms with what has happened. X

Thank you all so much. It really helps to read your messages. I think I'll go to my GP tomorrow and get signed off for the week.

I'm having a lot of aching in my legs. It's quite painful. Did anyone else have this?

Thinking of all you who have had losses 😔💔

oh, I really am so sorry. Just chiming in to support your decision to take the week off if you can - I know it's not the done thing as a teacher but you don't want to risk going in and having the worst of it happen there. And you need the time to come to terms with it anyway.

Everyone's different but when I've had early miscarriages like yours, the cramps have built up to a few hours of really intense pain. The bleeding may be heavy or it may not be worse than a heavy period. Do you have someone around who can be with you? I think that the best thing you can do for yourself is set yourself up to be as comfortable as possible - pyjamas, painkillers, heat pack, Netflix, any food you might like. Just cocoon yourself, allow yourself to grieve, be really kind to yourself. It's a miserable thing to go through and you don't get a medal for soldiering on at the expense of your mental or physical wellbeing.

Sending all the good peaceful vibes.

@Bb542 I am so sorry for you. As others have said please take time off work. I asked my GP to sign me off for two weeks and they did no questions asked.

I also had pain/aches in my leg. I had a lingering ache in my right thigh/pelvic area that lasted a good few weeks but did eventually disappear.

Look after yourself it's such a horrible thing to experience xxxxx

Im so sorry for your loss.

Its a hard thing to go through. I had 2 miscarriages at early stages first at 6+1 and second at 5+3.
I worked in a nursery with babies. My first miscarriage started naturally and i went back to work the following monday after miscarrying on the friday. It was definitely not the best decision, but i was told i wasnt allowed time off.
The second time i took 2 weeks off. It was a medical miscarriage as baby had stopped growing and there was no hb.
The 2 weeks that i had off was probably the best thing i did. I got a sick note from EPU after they discharged me the same day with medication.
I feel for you in this situation, its definitely hard and painful. You need to rest as much as possible and dont put too much pressure on yourself.

Take your time, take the time off to heal.

Sending you so much love at this time 💐