Pregnant with number 2

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Someone please tell me the feeling of worry is normal finding out your pregnant with number 2. It's absolutely everything I want but I'm now worrying my LB will hate me, feel like I don't love him and I won't be able to give him the whole world like I do now. Also money terrifies me. We're not skint and bring in a decent amount together but after nursery we struggle every month now.

Is this normal. Guess I'm just looking for reassurance!

It's really normal. I am really anxious about how life/work balance is going to work - we have a good system going at the moment and life is great. Worried my daughter will get jealous etc

But i also have a sister and i know i am giving her the greatest gift ever. my sister is my rock and my best friend

Completely normal. I'm 31 weeks with number 2. Number 1 has just turned 5. Even though we wanted a 4/5 year gap and we had been actively trying for 3 months, I cried when we got a positive test, I just felt overwhelming guilty that my son Will now have to share us after having us to himself for 5 years.

Honestly, life has been awful since having the second in every way. But we have no family support but its a rough ride im hoping that as they get older it will be worth it

Like @Bells3032 my Sister is my best friend and whenever I have wobbles about rocking DS's world, I just think "if my Mum and Dad hadn't done that to me, I wouldn't have my Sister!" Of course it's a massive change, but try and see it as adding more love to your family, not taking anything away. Your son will have less of your undivided attention but he will have a little playmate and someone to grow up with and share family memories with. Lots of amazing things 🥰

Saying all this, of course I have my moments of worry, however, after 3 pregnancy losses last year, I just feel so grateful that it's looking like no.2 might really be a reality that we will navigate everything else.

Have your told DC1 yet? My son is very happy and already talking to/about baby in my tummy. He certainly doesn't seem to think it's doom and gloom. And of course he can't think ahead to what it means in real terms but the fact he is happy with the idea of it is a good start.

If you're a bookish person I'd recommend The Second Baby Book by Sarah Ockwell-Smith. I'm reading it now and it's all about helping your first child with the transition in the best way possible, and also dealing with your own worries about it.

Yep totally normal! 5 year gap for us was planned that way if we were going to have another but still the mum guilt is there 😂 more excited than anything else now at 38 weeks but you’ll go through the motions. Also remember you may be eligible for the free nursery hours sooner depending on your circumstances so that may help rgd finances / fees. Good luck!