how the bloody hell do you get pregnant???????????????

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This is the story......

we want a baby.

I'm 27, have one dd of 4 from previous relationship and had my coil out 15 months ago- been trying HARD for 9 months. DH has had sperm analysis- good high count, morphology and motility a bit low but no problem cos of high count

I have regular normal periods. 26 day cycle, ov day 13-16, have temped, done the sticks, got a bit stressed so stopped. I dont smoke, neither does DH, we have the occasional drink but we are no lashers. We eat healthily, we excercise, we relax, have fun, I try really hard not to stress about it, I have acupuncture with a lady that specialises in fertility and I find that really helps.

Why havent I got a bun in my oven?????!!!!!!

Somebody give me a few golden words of wisdom please!!!!!!

well nothing really. eat food of certain sorts. have sex. she is awfully convincing though (have i got a suggestible uterus?)

anyway it certainly doesn't carry over since there is no patter of fins round here.

It's sometimes recommended for IVF'ers, supposed to increase the chances of conception by a further 10 % I think.

We tried for 8 months with my first and i visited my local health shop, she recommended vit E and said if i wasn't pg in 3 months i could have money back. I was pg 2 months later.

I've taken it for two further pg and fallen the first month with both. I'm taking it this month ttc my fourth.

It's one of those where they aren't sure why it works, it just does

Hes taking vit C and wellman to improve sperm. His count was really high- 117million per ml but morphology was only 6% (should be 15% but they said that anything above 5% is fine) and motility was 43% (should be 50%) but they really did not think it was a problem as his count was double what it should be. Still millions there doing the work. He will be retested next month. This has been a massive worry to be honest. Have only just come to terms with the fact that its prob actually not that much of a problem. I feel like I'm looking for answers......

Aspirin is said to improve blood flow to the ovaries and uterus (presumably because it thins the blood). The flip side is that I am sure I have read that some studies link aspirin to a higher rate of miscarriage. I know it is advised against in very early pregnancy - i.e. before you might know you are pregnant.

I guess if you take a decent pre-natal multi-vitamin then it should have most of the standard things in it - B6, B12, Vit E etc. The Zita West ones do, although I have been taking them for a whole month and am not pg (tut tut Zita. get a wriggle on, there's a dear ).

you can't take vit e if on anti coagulants iirc

Preg no 1- trying for 11 months, unfortunely lost at 3 months.
Preg no2 - trying for 9 months, unfortunely lost again
Preg no 3 - trying for 13 months, again sadly it didnt work out.
We decided to stop trying as I couldnt cope with losing anymore and tried my best to accept that I was never going to be a mummy. Started using the cap. A few months later just the one time I didnt put the cap in got preg and ds now 6. 6 months after he born just 1 time again that we got carried away and didnt put it in and 9 months later ds2 born. Both these times preg was the last thing on my mind and I was actually quite upset when I found out I was preg both times. I think there is def something to be said for relaxing and not trying to hard.

Its soooooooooooooooooo hard to get it out of your head though. Wish I had a switch to turn off thinking bout babies!!

The annoying thing is I got pg 1st month with dd with her father. DH is an absolute angel with her and has been her daddy since she was one and I just want him to have a child of his own. feel like a right let down!!

Sex every other day ( let's say at least twice a week). Not mecanical procreative sex. Fun loving sex!

for DS tried for 15 months with ovulation kits etc....
We decided to stop stressing and give ourselves the summer to rekindle romance, went on holiday, was pregnant 1 month later.

For N.2 (currently) stopped pill and was pg following month. Was not thinking about it, just very relaxed and having sex regularly.

Bottom line is have it, enjoy it and forget ovulation dates. There is no accurate way to know when you ovulate.

It took us 18months from stopping the injection (which had been on for 5 years or so). Periods never quite settled down - didn't have one for the first 6 months. Docs said anything up to three years before it could happen.

So we weren't really thinking about. One of the girls at work spotted me at about 8 weeks - I hadn't got a clue.....

Bit of a shock and when people ask if it was planned or nice surprise I say both.

Been there, done that, got a gynae file a mile thick to prove it too! Okay, DD were were told 'you need IVF' we promptly gave up after a year of trying medical interventions and got pregnant that month (another Zita Wester here - acupuncture, change of diet, hiding DH's corkscrew).

Am now 22 weeks pregnant with DS, miscarried before this pregnancy (a month before) so have actually conceived every sodding time we had sex (DD doesn't sleep) prior to conceiving this one.

What is different, well frankly we weren't too bothered about it, and I think that makes a massive difference. First time around I also used the hypnoconception CD which helped me believe it was possible (you start to think there is something wrong with you after a while don't you?)

Personally I think you will only get pregnant if you are confident you can. Your body follows your mind.

well, I sold all my nursery furniture this weekend. Am hoping that'll do it, .

Actually though, I did read somewhere that it is possible to have too high a sperm count, will try and find link but when dh was dx with low sperm count I went and read up and there was def mention that sperm count can be too high also.

Hi my bf ate plenty of cooked tomatoes that seemed to work a treat i was pg within 6 weeks

Can't quite remember, its a bit blurred, something to do with FM shoes to much wine and having a really good time aaahhh those were the days.

I think sometimes a couple just don't 'gel' in the sperm/egg department. A friend of mine is convinced that was the problem with me and DH as we took 4 years to conceive, and she believed that with another partner it could be instant. Obviously i didn't want another partner . Anyway, I happened to be taking Beconase for hayfever one spring time (an anti-allergy spray) and bang i became pregnant. Might be nothing to this theory, but you never know.

Oh, and by the way, we only did the deed once that particular month, when previously we had been at it a lot more.

Oh, and we ended up with twins

oh, and my bf got pg after giving up trying to have a short, relaxing break away from her dh and she got pg the 1st night home.

I think sometimes you can be too bothered about the right time. Have you thought about having a couple of months of not trying to give yourselves time to relax and recharge your batteries?

Well (ahem) the Jewish purtiy rule caught me out after 7 years. I had one m/c and an ectopic 7 years ago.

It goes like this, by Jewish purity laws a woman is claseed as 'unclean' until she has had 7 blood free days after her period. So the day you get the last bit of blood the next day count 7. This usually takes you to 14 days (bang on ovulation). Well the first month I kept it, (ever) I got preg on a one off rudy time.

Funny as its a law given by God and he knows what its at lol.

it is possible to have too high a sperm count

My top tip; put your legs in the air after the deed!!

I was trying for a few months and my sister told me this, the month I tried it I feel pregnant. I spoke to my friend and she did it to!