I've had a miscarriage

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sophiem05 · 14/02/2024 13:48

i'm supposed to be ten weeks today with my first pregnancy . i've been bleeding recently so i went for a scan today and found out the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and 3 days. i don't know what to do :(

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2in13 · 14/02/2024 13:55

I'm sorry to hear this! I've been through this before and it can be very difficult. Do you have anyone around you?

I cried and ordered a pizza and sat in bed before making a decision on what to do next. They usually say you have 3 options.

CluelessInLondon · 14/02/2024 14:14

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you have someone close by to support you.

Were you given advice at your scan on management options in case you need them? If not, there are very helpful and clear resources on the Miscarriage Association website - I was given their leaflets when I suffered a miscarriage in September and it really helped me with making a decision on what to do next. My miscarriage didn't progress naturally so I opted for surgical management. You may not need any intervention, but it's useful to know what's available to you in case you do.

It is a really horrible thing to go through and it's hard to give advice on it, but the main thing I would say is make sure you allow yourself to grieve and feel however you need to feel at any given time - however you feel is okay. There is a wonderful miscarriage support thread on the pregnancy loss forum here on Mumsnet should you want to share how you are feeling or just reach out to people who are in a similar position - it was a real lifeline for me after my MC.

lonelyo · 14/02/2024 14:29

I'm so sorry for you. I went through this at 8 weeks, it's agony and I hope you have people round you for support. People kept giving me facts about how common it is etc etc...doesn't take the pain away.
Keep smiling and be easy on yourself. Take a day at a time and you'll get there. I now have 2 healthy happy kids so there is hope! Sending hugs

thecatwiththesilveryfur · 14/02/2024 14:30

I'm so sorry to hear this, OP. Sending you love and solidarity from a fellow member of this rubbish club. Be kind to yourself.

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sophiem05 · 14/02/2024 14:40

2in13 · 14/02/2024 13:55

I'm sorry to hear this! I've been through this before and it can be very difficult. Do you have anyone around you?

I cried and ordered a pizza and sat in bed before making a decision on what to do next. They usually say you have 3 options.

i told the nurse that i'd prefer to try and let it run its course without intervention if possible and they said to do a test in 3 weeks and if it's still positive they'll have to intervene.
my fiancée is always by my side and he's just as heartbroken as i am but he's always there to support me.
i called my mum and she's booked us a getaway in a hotel for 3 nights so we can have some time away to try and relax and process what's happening which i'm very grateful for x

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2in13 · 14/02/2024 14:57

Definitely take some time to process this both together and individually. Like PP said, be kind to yourself. It's okay to feel however you're feeling whether it's sad, angry, numb etc.

That's a lovely gesture from your mum.

Wish you all the best and feel free to ask questions. Sometimes people don't want to speak to anyone at all but other people like to talk about it or read around the matter. There's no right way but we're here as a virtual hand to hold

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