2x miscarriages - anyone go on to have a healthy pregnancy - any advice?

[cinders92]

As title suggests, I had a missed miscarriage last January (with a lengthy process to physical recovery involved). Conceived again this January and had a very early natural miscarriage.

Half of me feels positive that I can conceive and I'll get there. But the other half of me is just totally fed up.

Any positive stories (or general pearls of wisdom) to share? :)

Following as in same boat

Hope something comes up for you soon x

Yep. He's 3 weeks old. I am 42 and had 2 x 1st trimester MCs before conceiving him. No previous children/pregnancies.

(I was prescribed progesterone in 2nd pregnancy after a bleed, and for this last pregnancy started taking it from my positive test)

I had a mmc, 3 months later a very early mc. I got pregnant two months later and now I have a beautiful 2 years old. We tried again for a baby and it happened in the first month (22 weeks pregnant now).

I know it's hard, but try not to be too stressed about i. I concived after the first two mc on my wedding week when I had to time to test or stress ( I guess alcohol also helped me relax 😅).
I know it's easier said than done, but try to trust your body.

3 miscarriages, a trip to the recurrent miscarriage clinic (EPU should have referred me after 2 as I was over 35 so if that applies for you, make sure you insist on it). Diagnosed with APS. Half an aspirin and an injection a day and that gave me my little boy. Another miscarriage, then added progesterone to the mix and baby girl is 7 months. Good luck x

So sorry for your losses OP. Last year I had a MMC in April, a CP early Sept and a MC end of Oct at 7wks... Horrible year. We were waiting referral to fertility clinic and decided to pause so we could enjoy Christmas. I had some drinks, hot baths etc... and realised after a few weeks my period still hadn't shown after my October loss. Not expecting anything I decided I ought to do a test before my work Christmas party.. hey presto. BFP. I was terrified and really cross that I'd potentially ruined Christmas 🤦🏼‍♀️ Buuuut... Currently 14wks and starting to believe this might be out rainbow after healthy 12wk scan and bump starting to emerge.

Aside from stopping tracking ovulation and having some drinks (!!!), the other difference was I had started taking CoQ10 supplements in September after my CP. Supposed to help egg quality and they take 3 months to impact eggs (due to ripening time of eggs etc)... So maybe that helped? I also started progesterone pessaries at 8wks due to spotting - although by that point the pregnancy had already progressed further than my losses so not sure it was important.

Best of luck to you. It can be so disheartening but you never know which cycle might be the one that brings your rainbow. Try and keep the hope 💕🌈🙏🏼

Spontaneous miscarriage 8w, chemical then baby 1.

3 more spontaneous miscarriages 10w, 6w and 8w. No referral to the miscarriage clinic, even though over 35 and trying for years. Was fobbed off each time. GP sent me for blood tests instead.

Then early bleeding at 5w and threatened miscarriage, prescribed progesterone by GP after I researched at length and shared my findings with GP. Had to fight for it! It helped me keep carrying to term my baby 2.

It's an absolute heart ache, I'm so sorry for your losses. I'd love another baby but my heart can't cope with the thought potentially losing any more. Miscarriage support is so lacking as well. We shouldn't have to fight for it.

Good luck in your journey x

Hi :)
I had a mmc at 12 weeks in 2020, an early miscarriage in 2022 and I am currently 27 weeks pregnant due in May!

We had fertility issues as well as the miscarriages and never thought we would get here. I actually received a letter for our 1st IVF appointment the week I found out we were pregnant!

In general we both tried to improve our health, cut out drinking, eat healthier including lots of walnuts, veg, berries etc and went to the gym more often. My husband took proceive conception supplement. I took a lot 🙈, agnus cactus oil, magnesium, coq10, iodine, pregnacare conception tablet, vitamin b12 & D and we both took maca root & creatine. Who knows whether any or all of these things helped but here we are.

Good luck on your journey, you'll get there!

Oh I also had a HSG procedure about 2 months before we conceived which I do think helped but understand it might not be beneficial or needed in yoir circumstances.

Hi, I’m so sorry for your losses. I was in your position about 11 years ago. I had a MMC at 12 weeks then a year later another MMC at 9 weeks. We had been trying for 2 years before the first pregnancy. It was a very dark time. I had a sympathetic gp who referred me for blood tests through community gynaecology. They found I had sticky blood. A blood clotting disorder which caused the miscarriages and possibly the infertility previously. They prescribed low dose aspirin. I previous to getting this diagnosis started eating cleanly and exercising regularly.
I Conceived my son who is now 10 and then 3 and half years later my daughter who is 5. Both were issue free pregnancies but I had to take the low dose aspirin.l throughout.
i wish you all the best. (I scoured the internet looking for hopeful stories after my mmc!) Take care x

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Despite it being a while back for me I remember it all too well and it was a dark time.
I miscarried for the 1st time at 11 weeks. It was tough as we went for multiple scans being told there was still a heartbeat etc but the bleeding continued. Then all over at 11 weeks. 2nd pregnancy similar happened. I just assumed my body couldn’t manage it.
I did have tests and had treatment for endometriosis and then got pregnant quickly afterwards. Bleeding again but dr put me straight on progesterone and all went well. With my next pregnancy I demanded progesterone and fortunately they allowed it. I now have 2 lovely children!
you read so much about miscarriage and how common it is but when you’re experiencing it it really feels horrendous. Just my darkest days.

But there is so much hope. My advice is just to ask for everything you can. Don’t be fobbed off and be brave.
I remember posting on here in utter despair all those years ago. I couldn’t believe I’d ever be the one with healthy kids.
good luck to you. I wish you all the luck!

I know a few friends who have had 2 or more miscarriages back to back, nothing found in tests and then went on to have a healthy baby naturally. It does happen. Don't give up hope.

Yes x 3 and then had my son now in his twenties.

Wish I could help but I'm also in the same boat. I've had 4 miscarriages and am waiting for my referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I'm desperate for answers now 😞

Absolutely everyone I know who has miscarried has gone on to give birth. Hope this helps. Xx

hello, I also had a lengthy recovery from miscarriage last Jan and then a very early loss in July. I am now having my 20 week scan next week meaning I was pregnant three times in 2023! No known issues were found, we were just the 1 percent..... you've got this :) as someone mentioned before, I also know nobody who hasn't conceived after miscarriage/s.
Sending love (ps, Im early 30s)

Yep, I had three miscarriages in a row (two natural MMCs and an IVF chemical) over 22 months but am now 27 weeks with our rainbow :)

Thank you all so much. This really does give me hope. I'm trying to stay as positive as possible, but it's hard isn't it. I'm in my 30s and we don't have any children yet, so I feel the time pressure. These responses help. :)

Hi @cinders92 sorry you are going through this. I had 3 losses in a row within space of a year. Decided to take a break but fell pregnant a few months after that and now I have a gorgeous 6 month old. Only thing I did differently was that I was prescribed progesterone for my successful pregnancy. It is such a worry but don't give up hope. I am late 30s. Good luck with it all xx

I had miscarriage, miscarriage, birth, miscarriage, birth. DC are late teens now.

I had about 6 early miscarriages back to back before dd1. Then a missed miscarriage at nearly 12 weeks before dd2. I did put myself on low dose aspirin for both my successful pregnancies. No idea if it was a coincidence

I'm so sorry OP, I remember the days of wondering whether I would ever be a mum, also in my 30s and the clock was ticking away!

I had a MMC at 12 weeks which had developed until 9 weeks followed by one at 9 weeks, not sure how far along I had got.

I asked my GP if they could do any basic blood tests - which they did. This flagged a potential problem and they did refer me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic. This was covid times and the waits were long so my husband and I decided to see someone privately. He felt my thyroid function was too high to support a pregnancy (different to what the GP had spotted) and got it under control and then told me to try again.

Once pregnant I was prescribed asprin, heparin, progestrogen and levothyroxine and carried by daughter to term, she is now 2. Currently 31 weeks pregnant again, saw the same Dr and followed the same routine and no complications.
Ended up being 2 years from getting pregnant the very first time to giving birth to my daughter and I spent a lot of that time very anxious.

If you can afford it, I would really recommend paying to see a specialist but asking GP to do basic bloods first (blood clotting disorders and general checks). I live in London and we have probably spent £8k altogether for both kids but this included extra scans, harmony tests and I needed some fertility tests before this pregnancy which soon added up.

Appreciate this is a lot of money and out of reach for some people but even paying £250 for one private consultation might point you in the right direction.

I know it isn't much comfort but I was told over and over again that two in a row does not increase your risk of a third, most women find no issue but go on to have a healthy baby next time.

Would recommend the books 'Coming to Term' and 'Pregnancy After Loss' (this one for your next pregnancy)