Major birthdays with 4month old

[SaturdayNighty58764]

Hi all,

Just after some advice. Currently pregnant and due in June. It's my mum and husbands 70th and 50th Birthday's on the same day respectively in November and I need to understand what I might be able to do for each of them in the form of a celebration with such a young baby. Can anyone advise what is realistic? Thanks.

What ideas do you have in mind? I have a 4 month old. Going out in the evening is difficult as he starts bedtime routine at 6 to be in bed at 7. Also depends how you're feeding baby. I breastfeed so can't leave him for long.

@sleephelpp I'm really not sure. Prior to getting pregnant, I was thinking of all sorts..getting family up from down south for mum and posdibly arranging a meal out, possibly a suprise party for my husband. I know that this is now unrealistic, I'm just not sure what is realistic. I intend to try and breastfeed..

Are you looking to do sth joint or separate? I went back to work whenDD1was ten weeks old and prob could've arranged a lot in work hours. Less so with DD2 who was harder work but also had less time.

I think you can manage surprise family meals or something with a party planner but I personally wouldn't be more ambitious than that unless you have a unicorn baby x

Babies aged under 6 months are the easiest to transport. They are also still just drinking milk. I'd think at least a nice meal out during the day should be doable. Time it round nap times, bring the pram etc and enjoy celebrating.

Your baby will be tiny. Bung them in a sling and crack on!

At 4 months, I'd plan whatever you want. DS would have been happy in a sling. They're very portable and are a bit more settled at 4 months.

to be honest you could do a dinner and keep baby asleep in pram - we went away for our friends 50th birthday in the Cotswolds with our ten week baby - she was very chilled. But of course we did go to bed at 9 with her - which was late still

Or if easier- why not do a really nice lunch or afternoon tea somewhere - then you can spend loads of time before baby gets sleepy in the evening

if you are breastfeeding you will have to feed a few times but by 4 months it shouldn’t be constant and could be spaced out eg every few hours so should be fine

I think it will be better than you think by 4 months for this

if it was 4 weeks that would be a different story

Whatever you like. We went white water rafting for one of my significant birthdays and I had a 3 month old baby (the baby did not go in the boat!) Entertained 30+ kids in a church hall and baked a three tier birthday cake before my youngest was 8 weeks. Managed a wedding when my middle was 10 days. Life goes on. Book a meal out, go on holiday, have an adventure, people cut you lots of slack and coo at the baby, everything’s great. They don’t cut you the same slack when you have a nightmare toddler, when your dc has just started reception and is overwhelmed by everything and overtired for the best part of a year, or when you have to bribe and endlessly negotiate with unreasonable teenagers to go to the event, wear reasonable clothes and say actual words ….

Enjoy!

Thank you for all the responses, much appreciated