Feeling lonely, depressed and anxious during pregnancy

[PeggyLee123]

Hey

I just wondered if anyone else feels really low during pregnancy? I feel like I'm loosing my friends because when I'm not working i'm hibernating, i feel like I'm loosing everything...my job my friends, my partner doesn't understand and I have no family for support (mum recently passed).

I just feel so overwelmed and yet guilty that the baby is going to suffer because of my health.

I went to my doctor but she wasn't much good - she said baby is at risk if i take anti depressants i just don't know what to do anymore

This is literally me! I go to work come home don’t go anywhere anymore. Barely see my family because I just can’t be bothered to leave the house. Crying a lot, anxiety is worse and like yours, my partner doesn’t understand but I don’t expect him to, he’s a man and doesn’t understand hormones. I just keep thinking that I have a life growing inside of me and I’m going to do everything I can to make sure they are safe and happy. Try taking up a hobby at home like reading, colouring in or sewing to keep your mind occupied. But you’re not alone trust me x

I agree. I have found pregnancy to be very lonely. I feel like everyone is living their lives and busy and I’m just either working or at home. I’m lucky that my partner is very homey and so on the weekends we do something (usually grocery shopping and cooking. Nothing major haha). But then when the weekend is over and it’s time for work I find myself very alone.

I work from home so barely see work colleagues or people until my eldest comes back home from school and I feel that I put on a smile for her.

It’s horrible but I’ve joined a local mummy yoga class - haven’t made friends but it’s so nice to be out. I’ve spent more time on mumsnet that I can imagine. I spend time watching interesting shows or learning something new on YouTube.

I also have plenty of convos with bump.

My midwife put me forward for councelling - maybe see if you can get access to some.

It can be hard. I hope you have a one or two people thst you can speak to.

Please, please go and speak with your midwife about it and get some counseling or a referral to a group for support. You are not alone and it's so so important you look after your mental health x

@PeggyLee123 Your GP has been a bit useless here and it's absolutely not the case that pregnant women just have to put up with feeling crap. Plenty take medication for anxiety/depression whilst pregnant and there are also amazing mental health support services. I would ask for a referral to antenatal mental health support through your midwife. Pregnant women get fast-tracked for MH support (which also tells you something of what a common need this is).

Really sorry to hear about your recent bereavement and I would imagine that has been particularly tough, especially as pregnancy is a time that makes you realise stuff about your own Mum even more. You sound like you're dealing with a lot and a bit low on resources and support. So definitely reach out again. I hope things start looking a bit brighter for you soon. 💕