Feeling Awful 1st Trimester

[Mlauren90]

I'm currently 9 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I have never felt worse. My body aches, the nausea is something else and it's almost like I have a hangover daily and on my worst days I even feel like I have flu. I spend most evenings in bed trying not to vom and I can't remember the last night I had a full night's sleep.

I feel guilty because my partner and I have been trying for nearly two years and finally it's happening but I've hated being pregnant. I feel like I'm looking a gift horse in the mouth.

I know the first trimester is challenging and I'm trying to be rational with my thoughts but I have just never felt worse about myself.

I havnt told anyone I'm pregnant yet and the only person I can talk to is my fella (who is actually being the most incredible he's ever been) though now it's getting to the point its all we ever talk about.

I suppose I just need some positivity, that its normal, that other people experience this and even some tips to help me feel more human or even just the tiniest bit better.

Thank you lovelies 🤍

It’s so normal, and 9 weeks was about when these symptoms peaked for me! I don’t know if you’ve done any reading around it but about 10 weeks is when the placenta starts to take over from the hormones, which is what are making you feel so ill, and once that happens you should start feeling better. I gradually felt better from 10 weeks onwards until about 16 weeks when apart from a growing bump I didn’t really feel pregnant at all!

Tips for feeling better, if nausea hits in the evening try and eat more in the morning/lunch when it’s easier. Don’t worry about what you’re eating too much, I just ate what I fancied which was normally something salty and unhealthy. Sucking on sweets helped my nausea too. If you’re working it might be helpful to tell a manager and potentially take some holiday or time sick, I had a few days sick where the nausea was unbearable and slept most of those days.

Hi - fellow traveller here, nearly 9w myself. I’ve had one before so thought I knew what I was in for but it’s whacked me hard ☹️ carbs upon carbs and going to sleep at 9 is helping me with the worst of the symptoms, but I’m also counting down the days til it eases off. For me last time nausea had completely disappeared by 14w and had been getting steadily better before then. I know you feel guilty, I do too (as this is a very wanted pregnancy) but I promise it will pass and you’ll soon be feeling a bit more normal!

I was like this. Possibly worse! I could barely walk, vomiting several times a day was the main highlight as it temporarily relieved the nausea. It was unrelenting suffering tbh By about 6 months I felt a lot better. Childbirth was easy in comparison! It has still been the best thing I ever did

Oh darling OP, I feel for you and have been right where you are, several times. Friends and I likened it to having a permanent hangover for about 5 weeks, in varying shades of 'which alcoholic drink was it'. My 3 LOs that stuck were as follows:

1. Nausea started at 7 weeks and ended at 14 weeks - no actual vomiting, but felt pretty shite for the 7 weeks and then fairly awful for another 7 after that, til 21 weeks.
2. Nausea started at 6 week and was utterly, utterly terrible for 3.5 weeks and then stopped. I panicked and thought I was MC again (have had 3) but then all was fine.
3. Nausea started at 7 weeks and was vomiting 3 times daily. Could eat no carbs at all. Stopped abruptly at 11 weeks 4 days and then I ate everything, all the time. Was great!

Essentially, they were all pretty different, but not fun and you just have to count off the days. The nausea does disappear pretty quickly though on the whole, once the placenta has formed (apparently) and I definitely found this to be true. One day, you just wake up and you're not nauseous.
V fizzy, cold tonic water helped me, as it gave me a reason to burp. x

This is my first ever time and post on here and I can't tell you all how much I appreciate you all. I think it's most reassuring that I'm normal (in this anyway) and I probably need to be kinder to myself.

Eating more in the mornings is a great shout! Evenings are definitely my worst. I had read about approx week 10 starting to ease but I'm just in the headspace that i can't see a way out of feeling terrible but you all are definitely helping me see past that.

You guys definitely made me cry but in the best way. Thank you, thank you, thank you!