8 weeks and so unbelievably miserable

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I have ranted a couple of times on here now but I just can’t believe how much of a bad time I’m having during this pregnancy so far. I know I should feel blessed and happy and trust me I wish I could feel that way but instead I feel regretful and like I’ll never feel normal again.

This is my third pregnancy and I feel worse than I did with my other two. I am spending whole days in bed. All day sickness, throwing up only 2/3 times which I know is lucky compared to some but still miserable. All day crippling exhaustion, dizzy when standing/walking it’s almost like vertigo. My partner had a late tea the other night and I was laid in bed smelling his food cooking trembling and like the room was spinning. I miss spending time with my two children. I try to make it downstairs for 10-15 mins a couple of times a day to play but I’m useless.

My poor partner is doing everything in the house including the majority of taking care of our two children (luckily eldest is at school all day but youngest is only 1) he works from home so is doing the absolute best he can and I am so grateful for him.

The doctor prescribed me cyclizine but whenever I take it I feel even worse. I’ve got huge food aversions, can’t bare the thought of anything at all. I’ve got awful post nasal drip and it’s 24/7, I feel like I’ve got a furry coating on the back of my tongue but when I try to clean it off I projectile vomit.

This is nothing short of misery. I can’t ever do this again, there was a part of me that would go for a fourth child but I won’t after this experience, I can’t put myself through it. I am riddled with anxiety, partly because I think I associate sickness with anxiety so it feels like a never ending vicious cycle.

I’m so sorry for ranting but I need to speak to people who seriously understand what I’m going through. My mom doesn’t remember much as she had me and my brothers 30+ years a go. And I swear every other mom I know has been lucky and skipped the sickness entirely. I even have a friend who’s had twins and didn’t have any symptoms at all, I feel so jealous.

Have you had a scan? My friend had really bad symptoms with a twin pregnancy. She was fine with her singleton pregnancies.

@Stormysundaymorning I haven’t had a scan yet no! Tbh my previous pregnancies were tough and I did have the sickness/exhaustion but just nowhere near this bad. 😩

You poor thing. I remember the horrible exhaustion I had at this point in the first trimester, which was worst in my third pregnancy. Hang on in there, and I hope you have friends and family who can lean in and allow you to get some rest

I literally could have written this post!!!! Get your doctor to change your meds, I'm on metroclopramide and cyclizine now and it's helps a little tho I'm still in bed most of the time.

If you are struggling to drink much and generally can't cope, go to hospital a and e. I did a couple of weeks ago and they gave me fluids via drip and more anti sickness drugs and it really helped.

I don't really have other advice I also feel awful and I'm in bed all day and can't wait to feel better xx

Huge sympathies. I saw your thread title and had to respond as I remember week 8 being peak misery with both of my pregnancies. It’s one of the main reasons why there is a large age gap between my children and I certainly couldn’t have done it a third time. So you are very brave and it will be worth it. Every week after week 8 got a tiny bit better for me and was back to pretty much normal by week 13.

Thanks so much ladies! It’s being made worse by the fact my sickness is at it’s absolute worst come 5pm and this is when I’ll be sick 2/3 times, sometimes throughout the night, it’s so awful 😩

I’m definitely going to ring the doctor to change medication on Monday because I can’t continue like this. I’ve managed to eat a yoghurt for tea, a literal yoghurt and that’s it! Yesterday I managed 2 mini eggs at tea time and that was it. I try so hard to eat an ok breakfast and drink as much water as possible in the morning but the sickness is still there, just not as severe as evening/night time.

I’m laying here now with my mouth filled with saliva and it’s awful, I know the inevitable is coming and I hate it! I haven’t left the bedroom since about 3pm because I can’t cope with the smell of what the kids have had for tea to hit me like a ton of bricks. But I also can’t cope with putting anything over my nose to cover the smell because the smell of what I’m using makes me sick too. Make it all make sense?

God this really and truly is pure misery! 😩

I got bad sickness in the evenings too, past 5pm I had to put myself to bed, even watching tv or looking at a phone made me feel nauseous. All I could do was lay on my back and try to sleep. And I was so exhausted some nights I could barely get up the stairs! I started having a bigger meal at lunch time just to eat something which helped. Week 8 was the worst for me though, I was feeling much better by week 10.

I feel you op first trimester was hell again this time round but also felt much worse as I have a 4 year old. Felt so awful not being able to do much with him & just literally trying to survive.Give yourself grace it is a lot. Second wasn’t too bad but final trimester is also kick g my butt. Spd & pgp has been dreadful this time and much sooner so this has impacted the whole pregnancy & awful sleep.just spent 6 nights in hospital too with infection & being treated. Still recovering! Will be glad once pregnancy is over 36 weeks this weekend.

hang in there and rest as much as you can

My third was the worst also. Right up until I gave birth I hate to say. But most people feel better around 14 weeks.

Hang in there. It WILL pass. But yes. It can be awful

Just coming through the other side of this now at 11.5 weeks, which is earlier than my last pregnancy.
8 weeks was so rough, I relate so much to that feeling that you can’t imagine feeling good ever again. My husband has been doing all the parenting and he’s been so good about it but the guilt I am putting on myself is a lot.
Definitely change the meds, metoclopramide helped me much more than cyclizine. I still had a lot of nausea but felt a bit more functional.
It will be over soon, and it’s so quickly forgotten too!

@Shortbreadfingerss This is exactly how I feel, I haven’t watched any tv in weeks and come evening I can’t even use my phone and I literally disappear off the face of the earth and don’t resurface again until 9am. I have tried so hard today to eat a bit more when I felt like I could (between 10-2pm) so we shall see how I feel come 5pm again! I can already tell it won’t be good though as it usually creeps in around 3! 😩

@hickorydickory20 Oh god I would love to come out the end in 2-3 weeks time. With my first I felt LOADS better at 9/10 weeks. I read it’s when the placenta usually starts to take over and bang on when it did I started to feel myself again. I hope I’m as lucky this time because with my second it was a bit longer and I was still feeling and being sick close to 16 weeks! 😩 I just can’t believe what possessed me to want to go through this a third time, it’s quite possibly one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through. I’m definitely ringing the doctors Monday morning asap and changing meds, the cyclizine is doing sweet fa.

@boopboopbidoop I salute to all the women out there that go through this right up until birth. I got real lucky with my first and was better by about 10 weeks and 16 weeks with my second. Worried slightly that if I follow that pattern I could be looking at closer to 20 weeks with this one but fingers crossed it’s not! 🥴

It was hard but she is now my teen joy. Absolutely my favourite human.