Feeling guilty about not excercising

[SilverJay]

Before the pregnancy I was on a weight loss jorney. And I was promising myself that I'll be one of these moms who excersise during pregnancy to at leask keep myself in a reasonable shape, to come back into proper shape after giving birth in a reasonable time. But I'm on a week 15 and I've been feeling so nauseous and exhausted, that I simply can't get off the couch for most of the day.
My doctor and nurses don't say anything direct about my weight gain, but they are giving a side eye, which is not making it better in any way.
Feeling guilty for gaining weight, not excersising and not keeping my own promise.

The first trimester is rough, don't beat yourself up. I'm normally fit and active and had to stop running at 7 weeks this time due to being so exhausted. I managed to get back into doing some exercise in my second trimester (mostly pregnancy circuits and Pilates), then picked up an injury a few weeks ago and just getting back to it again now at 34 weeks. Do what you can, when you can even if it's just walks, but the first trimester is difficult for a lot of women.

Don’t feel bad - from August last year, my husband and I had been on a really solid fitness regime, including yoga, weights and cardio. Over Christmas we took a back seat (because Christmas), but since we found out I’m pregnant we haven’t set foot in the gym at all 😂. The thought of it makes me feel tired and nauseous. I know it’ll pass and I’m looking forward to doing some gentle cardio and maybe back to yoga when I’m a bit further along. You’ve just got to do what it takes to survive this thing!

Oh gosh, the first trimester is not the time to worry about exercise unless you're really feeling like it! You'll get into it once you feel better. But even then, don't think of it in terms of weight or getting back into shape. Think of it in terms of building up stamina for labour, recovery and the general hard work of parenting! I had all good intentions of doing all these pregnancy work out videos on YouTube but felt too grim. I did do a lot of walking once I felt better.

I'd hope the midwives would actually say something if they were concerned about weight gain.

Also, now is a good time to let go of any expectations of your self, other than doing your best. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

Totally agree with everyone else here, I was pretty active and then really struggled to find my rhythm early in the pregnancy and honestly did not much at all bar a weekly physio session.

But once I started to feel a bit more human, I was able to get back on my indoor bike, and into the gym a bit more regularly. Don’t get me wrong I feel like I’ve “lost” a lot of fitness, and some days that doesn’t feel good, but staying active at least in some way has allowed me to exert some kind of control over my body, when I’ve definitely had to learn to let that go a bit.

I also did some women’s group classes with an instructor who’d had a baby. She really tried to teach me to not try and go to 100% in pregnancy and that 60-70% is more than good enough with everything our bodies are doing. It was also hugely empowering to have the support of the other women.

instagram is a blessing and a curse when pregnant, but midwife pip often uploads some pregnancy safe workouts you can follow and there are a fair few other creators who you can get some gentle circuits from to get you going. I use this as my starting point a lot, so I just don’t have to think and then combine with very gentle cardio like walking, stationary bike or the elliptical.

I know it’s hard in this moment, and I also found the weight gain super stressful, but your body is now doing something 24 hours a day. You have every right to feel tired and if anyone else judges you, that’s their problem, not yours. Although I know that’s an easy thing to say, but harder in practice.

you’ll get there, and I definitely think some gentle movement when you’re ready will help hugely if you’re like me.

Don't feel bad at all. You do not need to be trying to lose weight right now. It's good if you feel up to doing anything, even a short walk. Swimming works well for now.

I was quite active before the pregnancy. I'm 9 weeks now and have managed a total of ONE proper workout and a few 10 minutes ones. I'm exhausted, nauseous, sleepy, bloated, sick. Fuck it. You're not meant to be dieting anyway. Go for long walks, that will be good for you.