Second trimester worries - advice needed

[Ijustwant1]

I feel so grateful to have made it to 12 weeks after two previous losses (both before 7 weeks) and never thought we would make it this far

However, I now cannot shake the feeling that something terrible will happen in the next trimester. I know statistically the chances are low but it does still happen. I have tried to limit my exposure to ‘bad’ news but also like to be realistic.

Why do later losses happen? Can I have any testing to prevent anything happening?

I am already speaking to a pregnancy after loss counsellor but haven’t found their advice too helpful. If anyone has any tips, ideas or just a general handhold I would really appreciate it.

Firstly, congratulations on your pregnancy! Similar situation here, currently 33 weeks after 5 losses around same time as yours, so I totally get it. It's natural to be guarded and be looking for things to worry about (I'm still doing it now!) My advice 1) the Internet is not your friend and will only make your anxiety worse 2) No one can predict what will happen but your odds are as good as anyone else's 3) it's OK not to enjoy every second, pregnancy after loss is hard and there may be times that you want to detach from it. Keep doing things that make you happy and don't let the pregnancy consume every waking moment. There have been times I've wanted to celebrate making it this far, and others when I've not wanted anyone to mention the baby at all. Both are fine and normal 4) do mention your history and worries to your midwife, most are sympathetic and mine has offered extra checks just for reassurance

Speaking from experience, I know this is all easier said than done. Be kind to yourself.

I don’t have many suggestions how to co op but wanted to let you know it’s normal to feel that way!
everyday a new anxiety is unlocking for me. I also thought that after 12w mark would be a breeze but hell it’s been way harder now. I’m just anxious about everything and unfortunately cant enjoy this pregnancy at all which I’m ashamed of😞

now I’m waiting for my bump to get bigger and start feeling movement, so maybe I will relax then?!?

stay strong mama all the odds are with us for a good outcome🫶🏻🫶🏻