Pregnant but partner wants me to have an abortion

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Im currently 6+2 weeks pregnant (unplanned pregnancy). We already have 3 children together, the youngest 3 who had a tough time when born and was in and out of hospital. I fount out before christmas i was pregnant which was a complete shock, i told my partner who said straight away we cant keep it. He has said he thought about keeping it but i suffer with mental health problems and have suffered with issues with alcohol, hes worried he will end up a single dad with 4 kids. I went to a clinic on wednesday for a consultation but i know deep down i wont be able to go through with an abortion, but my partner also does not want this baby and i honestly dont think he will change his mind, i honestly do not no what to do x

To be fair she says 'have suffered' not 'suffer', fair number of assumptions going on here.

Yeah, I noticed that too

It's your body your choice and no one can force you.

But you have a responsibility to the children you have in addition to the potential child you carry. You partner may have very valid concerns.

An abortion isn't a magical undo button, it is terminating a life. Some women are fine with that and others are traumatised and haunted with guilt for the rest of their lives. OP said she doesn't think she could go through it, what if that makes her problem worse? OP you need to urgently seek help and quit drinking for the sake of your family and your unborn child.

At the end of the day it's your body so your choice but you need to seriously think about what he's saying, it sounds like he has very valid reasons for not wanting to continue with this pregnancy. Think about the children you already have and how another baby will affect them.
You're in a horrible situation but your DH is probably right on this one, but your hormones are making you want to keep the baby so it's really difficult x

Is having another child really what's best for your existing children? It honestly doesn't sound as though it is.

@justanotherusername22 thank you. Things are very bleak at the moment