To try for a 3rd baby - TW abortion

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Hi, I had a termination due to many reasons back in July last year which I regret deeply they would have being due soon, is it disrespectful to try again for another It broke me and I can't help but feel awful if I was to fall pregnant again only nine months later and it seems like it was all for nothing, but my hope is they come back to me.

Really feel for you @applecrumble03. Presumably your original decision wasn't made lightly and therefore you must have had good reasons to go ahead with ending your pregnancy. I guess I would caution trying now out of guilt/remorse if those original reasons are still pertinent.

Did you ever get counselling/support about your decision and the pain that followed? What are your partners thoughts on it all? Do they support your desire to try again now? Did they feel similar regret about the previous termination?

It's really not an easy topic but I think you need more support with this decision than you will probably get on an internet thread of random women.

I'm really sorry that you're in so much pain from the choice you made. I had three losses last year and I imagine in some ways that grief could have been even more complex if it resulted from my own decision. Do try to seek some support with this and go gently on yourself. 💕

You have to do what's right for you, you absolutely shouldn't let having an abortion stop you from trying again if it's truly what you want. I do think you need to do it for the right reasons though, not through any misplaced guilt. Do you have emotional support around you?

Have the reasons you had the abortion all resolved in the last few months? If you found out you were pregnant again would you be faced with the same dilemmas?

@applecrumble03 I feel the same way as you. Maybe they'll find their way back to me (I'm not even a spiritual person). I'm going through this now and have realised everything I was feeling was Perinatal anxiety that I let take over. I will be trying again soon too. I've found solutions to all the challenges immediately afterwards and now have to live with the grief. I feel terrible.

Make the decision on how you feel, only you know. I have total sympathy for you and going through it now myself.