Please read and help a panicked pregnant woman out

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I’m currently 10 weeks and 6 days pregnant with my first baby. Never been pregnant before. I’m 26 and was diagnosed with unexplained infertility prior to becoming pregnant as my husband and I had been ttc for 19 months without success. This has made me feel really anxious about being pregnant now, as I’m always wondering whether my body will know how to keep a baby safe when it couldn’t seem to make one.

Ive had bad nausea throughout this pregnancy and throw up every night and morning without fail. On Friday night I had a curry for tea and immediately threw it up. It wasn’t spicy but my stomach felt unsettled for a while. I went to bed still feeling like I could vomit but I fought against it as I was exhausted and wanted to sleep. Woke up around 1am with an intense pain in my stomach (around my belly button area) that lasted about 10 minutes. I threw up in this time and the pain went away. The pain hasn’t returned and I haven’t had any bleeding.

Woke up Saturday morning (10 weeks 5 days pregnant) feeling nauseous but didn’t throw up (a first for me). The feeling went away after I ate breakfast. I felt nauseous again Saturday evening but this went away once I’d eaten my tea. I didn’t throw up that night. This was the first day ever that I’ve not been sick.

Around 11pm Saturday night I rang up my local hospital as I felt really concerned about that pain I had on Friday night and the lack of sickness on Saturday. The midwife I spoke with wasn’t concerned and said that the pain I felt on Friday night was likely linked to fighting off vomiting as well as the actual vomiting I did, considering it hasn’t returned. She said something to do with stomach acid but I can’t remember exactly. She also said that around this time, the placenta starts to take over which can ease up symptoms. I felt reassured until this morning.

Woke up today (Sunday) at 10 weeks and 6 days pregnant, and feel completely fine. No nausea, no sickness. Breasts have been hard throughout my pregnancy yet feel soft today. My mind is spiralling. Called my hospital again who have said they will not do anything unless there’s bleeding and have told me that how I feel is normal.

I had an early private scan at 8 weeks 6 days where I could clearly see my baby and their heart beating. Their heart rate was healthy.
My next scan is at 12 weeks and 4 days (February 1st). I don’t know how to make it until this time as I now can’t stop worrying.

I literally don’t feel pregnant anymore. I’ve checked the private scanning places near me and none of them have availability until after February 1st, so my only option is to wait it out.

Has anyone else experienced similar, or had symptoms completely ease up? What was the outcome?

I’ve sobbed this morning and I can’t focus on anything

I did I was sick as a dog some days and others I was completely fine I think it did depend on what I’d eaten the night before as some things made me more 🤮 than others!

Can you ask the private scan place if there’s a procedure for cancellations and get an appointment at short notice that way?!

I’m 11 weeks and have had similar tailoring off of symptoms. Many ladies reporting the same on the Aug 2024 thread. Have you considered doing an NIPT test? There might be more availability for that than scans where you are.
Like you I have had a fair amount of stomach pain so I know it’s hard but please try and relax.

Hi OP. I've had 2 experiences of this with DC2 and DC3. With DC2 I stopped being nauseous abruptly at 9 weeks, to the extent that I asked for a blood test from the Drs to see if the hormone levels were dropping. They confirmed that I 'was pregnant' (helpful!). I had to wait til the scan and all was well. With DC3 my nausea disappeared overnight at pretty much 10 weeks 4 days......at which point I realised I was ravenously hungry, finally put on some weight and was fine for the rest of the pg. Almost 11 weeks is not an unusual time to lose the nausea. x

When the placenta takes over properly around 9-10 weeks I thought the nausea tailed off - it did for me last time.
https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/when-does-the-placenta-form#:~:text=The%20placenta%20and%20morning%20sickness&text=As%20already%20mentioned%2C%20towards%20the,an%20end%20to%20morning%20sickness.
" towards the end of the first trimester (around week 10), the placenta takes over the production of progesterone. This helps reduce nausea and vomiting. For many mamas, this means an end to morning sickness."

Do you mean Saturday as in yesterday? This sounds normal to be honest I found by this stage sometimes my symptoms would be worse than others whereas before I felt sick all day, every day. You might find you wake up tomorrow feeling awful again!

This is the reason.

This all sounds completely normal.

My nausea stopped in its tracks around the same time. Make the most of it and have something nice to eat x

Hi OP your body will go through so many changes during the pregnancy and symptoms can come and go.

If this is causing you such stress that you are sobbing and unable to focus do reach out to midwives for some peri-natal mental health support now. Anxiety is not what you want for the next many months of pregnancy.

I found early pregnancy a really anxious time too, it feels like forever.

I know the disappearing sickness must be alarming but it’s really fine.

I’ve also read a lot on here from women who actually had missed miscarriages and the sickness continued. So the sickness disappearing isn’t a bad sign. It’s just the placenta taking over and the hormones calming down a bit.

I‘ve had 5 babies and each time, around the time you are now, my symptoms have gone, and this has been the start of the best bit of pregnancy- the bit where you start to feel human again and can appreciate the growing bean inside you, you generally feel over the worst of the worry and you aren’t big so can get about and do things comfortably.
I am so sorry for the stress- I’ve had losses and so I’ve been in the same place, but this all sounds normal to me. Breathe deeply, trust in your body to do what it knows it can do. I know it’ll be a long wait, but if you are kind to yourself it will be easier. Much love to you.

As everyone is saying, this is absolutely what is supposed to happen. Do a search on Mumsnet for 'loss of symptoms' and see just how many people have had a similar panic.

I would recommend you start reading up about the stages of pregnancy so you're a bit more prepared. I'm 34 weeks and don't feel pregnant at all. If I weren't the size of a small dwelling and feeling the baby kick every so often, I would have no feedback at all and have felt this way since week 13.

There are frustrating times ahead - week 14-18 are pretty uneventful with no midwife appointments and (usually) no signs of pregnancy particularly. Look after your mental health as well as your physical health.

I agree - you have a long way to go and need to manage anxiety or you will find pregnancy impossible.

Agree with other posters I’m 27 weeks and I also have an anterior placenta so it’s only in the last week that I’ve really felt baby kick often. I’m a bit tired and sore because I’m bigger but other than that I really wouldn’t feel ‘pregnant’. There’s a time between 13 - 25 weeks where other than the 20 week scan nothing much happens. You should speak to your midwife to manage your anxiety or pregnancy will just be unbearable for you.