Ectopic pregnancy, not sure if I have posted this in the wrong section

[Rosesanddaisys]

2 years ago I had an ectopic pregnancy, I was in bleeding for months before knowing I was pregnant was in pain on and off, I had gone to the doctors about the bleeding and they examined my cervix and said they could see some redness on one side, that night I done a pregnancy test and it was positive, the next day I was in so much pain could not even get up off my bed called a relative and went to the hospital, they done scan couldn’t see baby in womb done internal and said the pregnancy was in my tube, the sent me to another hospital and I waited around and then went for an operation to remove one tube, but after it the doctor went through what had happened and I’m sure he thought that I had already taken a tablet for it to end the pregnancy and to loose it naturally, I think… but I didn’t have this tablet I didn’t get offered this tablet has anyone been through something similar ? Should I have been given the tablet before they removed my tube or could I have been to far gone to have the tablet I have no idea it all just happened so fast I couldn’t even get my head around it, I just feel I didn’t need to lose a tube if they would’ve offered me the tablet to remove the pregnancy, it’s a horrible feeling that I’ve had a tube removed I know that I have another tube well I hope I have because I haven’t even got notes or anything from what had happened do you think I could call up the hospital I was at for more information to what I had done even though this was 2 years ago ?

It may be worth asking the hospital to see your notes. I had my ectopic 14 years ago, about a month after I had so many questions in my head that I wrote to PALs and they organised an appointment with my surgeon. I knew my tube had ruptured which is why I had to have full surgery (cut like a c-section rather than laparoscopic) and I had questions about what happened to the fetus, why I'd been ignored by EPU etc. It was helpful and eased my mind, I think seeing your notes could give you some closure on this

@hartof thank you for the reply, that is how I felt i already have 4 DC, the pregnancy wasn’t planned as my youngest wasn’t even 1, but I feel I have left behind my baby I don’t even know if it was a baby how far I would’ve been it made me feel so so guilty but I had so much going on at home when I had got home I couldn’t really focus on it, I had letter from the hospital asking what I wanted to do with baby I don’t know what to call had it developed into a baby but there was choices to cremate or have it buried in what must be a cemetery part of the hospital I really can’t remember exactly but it really plays on my mind to this day it was still my baby and I feel I should have done something for it than leave it in the hospital does that make sense? I feel so bad about it, and I just wonder what they did with it as I didn’t phone the hospital afterwards :( also my partner wasn’t ready for another baby nether was I if I’m honest to him it probably felt like nothing but it was so heartbreaking for me. So because of that I felt I couldn’t talk much about it I felt like I was over reacting to something that he probably didn’t see as a baby.

I think I will get onto the hospital I just need to know what I actually had done I know it was key hole surgery laparoscopy, and that I had to have blood transfusion as I lost a lot of blood during it but even knowing what tube they took my left or right if it was one tube or both; I’m sure that mine didn’t rupture but they did say it was around 7cm so they was surprised it didn’t rupture but 7cm that isn’t that small that what makes me think :(

sorry about the essay but it’s just so good to let it all out off my head

I had an ectopic and was told I would have the tube removed. I called the private consultant I was seeing for a separate gynae reason to ask her if this was really necessary and whether I should take the tablet instead. She said that it would be her recommendation to remove itself as the tube would be damaged and more likely to cause another ectopic.

It took me a year but I got pregnant in the right place with my son and then when we tried for my daughter I got pregnant first try. I was frantic when I lost my tube thinking it would be so difficult but in actual fact it wasn't. I think it took a year the first time because I'd had to have an ovarian cyst removed that was pressing on my other tube. So all in all, horrific as it is to go through, it doesn't mean the end for fertility. I wish you the best for your recovery. It's a horrible thing to go through.