Evening all,
Was hoping for some advice. I’m currently 8 months pregnant and split from my ex a week before finding out I was pregnant (contraception failure). The relationship had not been very long term and reason for splitting was cheating on his part. He became ‘official’ with other woman a few days after we split.
I informed him as soon as I found out and at first he seemed quite positive about it. A week later he was very insistent I terminated the pregnancy and that he wanted nothing to do with the baby or I. I decided to continue with the pregnancy and informed him he was welcome to be a part of the babies life and to let me know if he wanted updates regarding the pregnancy/baby to which he blocked me off everything.
The last time I heard from him was when he rang on a withheld number when I was about 2 months to tell me that he was now in a happy relationship with the woman he cheated on me with and that she was also pregnant and their baby was going to be so loved.. I replied saying it was none of my business and to please only contact me if it was regarding the baby. He then denied he’s the father and I’ve never heard from him since.
Ive been happily getting on with my pregnancy, have a great support network and everything ready for babies arrival. He recently came up in my people you may know on Facebook so must have unblocked me but there is no option to message so presume he has kept me blocked on Facebook messenger. He also no longer seems to be in a relationship with the other woman (it was previously on his social media). I actually saw the other woman recently while doing my food shop (I doubt she knows anything about me). She was wearing a tight jumper and there was no sign of a bump. I presume he’s either made the entire pregnancy up in a bid I would terminate or she has miscarried/terminated.
As my due date gets closer, I’m wondering whether, when, how and if to inform him that the baby has arrived. In all honestly I much rather do it alone but of course if he wanted to be in the babies life then I would encourage a relationship between them. I know he was moving address shortly after we split so don’t have a clue where he lives. Realistically the only way I could contact him would be off another phone number (which I don’t have) or a withheld number which I don’t want to do as it seems quite harassing to do so.
I’m happy to leave the ball in his court but then wondering if it’s best to have a paper trail that he has been informed of the birth incase he tries to use it against me in the future.
Any advice appreciated :-)