Terrified of 20 week scan

[Senso21]

Just that really, 3rd baby, got a week until my 20 week scan and I’m so worried something will be wrong.

I remember being a little concerned with my last 2 but nothing like this. Just feel so out of control and worried.

equally worried that something will be wrong but missed and won’t find out until birth 😥

I'm sure everything will be fine! I wonder whether it's just a case of too much awareness of what might go wrong/feeling lucky your previous 2 were healthy pregnancies that's making you feel anxious about this one?

If you've not had any concern from your midwife or sonographer prior to this, then it's best to find something that can serve as a distraction for you until your scan comes along (e.g. a nice miniseries or podcast).

I know "don't be anxious" is easier said than done though 💐

@Senso21 I'm feeling exactly the same. My scan is this week and I keep stressing that something has to be wrong. This is my first pregnancy thats got to this point.

But rationally I know that so far there have been no signs that something is wrong. All my scans (there were a lot of early private scans!) have been fine. My midwife has no concerns. I've been having uncomfortable round ligament pain but that's normal.

I'm trying to distract myself, and not get too overwhelmed by the feelings. Agree that it is the lack of control that makes it hard. I hope it goes well for you.

you’ve hit the nail on the head here!

I was dubious about whether to even try for baby 3 because I almost felt as though I was tempting fate after 2 healthy pregnancies and 2 beautiful amazing healthy children. Like the odd won’t be in my favour this time.

it’s a bit of a warped way to think, but it’s just a mothers brain isn’t it!

Glad it’s not just me then, I really hope everything goes ok with your scan too!

And then it will be more worrying about something else after that won’t it! It never ends x

I think the thing to keep repeating is that worry won't help anything. It won't help you prepare for the worst, it'll at best just make you have to relive the potential bad thing many more times than you have to. When I get these invasive negative thoughts I find it just helps to repeat to myself 'If worry won't help, don't worry'. I know that sounds silly but I find it helps in these scenarios.

If it's any consolation, my mum had 3 pregnancies and she definitely saved the best till last (I'm the third child 😏)