i found out recently that I am pregnant. H and I were trying, but stopped at least a year ago. No chats re contraception, was just of the view we couldn’t.
H was away from 26/27 August. He came home on 26 Nov. I went to the doctor because was experiencing weird symptoms. All flags in hindsight, but it didn’t cross my mind.
doc said I was pregnant. This was all done within the week commencing the 18th December (foggy brain so don’t know exact day right now) I was told I’m around 18 to 19 weeks. But difficult to say because my periods are hugely irregular. Both in times of the month, heavy/low and length (might be 2 days, 5 days, 2 weeks.
H reacted terribly when I shared the news. As in threw the grenade and I’m stuck with the mess. Said he wanted a divorce. Said I’m the last person he would ever want a child with. MIL is literally the most toxic and bullying person I have ever come across. She was threatening me over text messages that she has had enough and telling my parents. I remained firm in I will tell them when they are home and they can talk, and they can experience a lovely holiday with their grandchildren (brothers boys). They live in South Africa, so would receive these in the middle of the night. She thought I was lying and I was scared to tell my parents. In the end I sent a message that was ‘softer, no details etc. I ONLY did this as the only fear I had was what she would say, given her past behaviour.
If I wasn’t so devastated by all this I’d actually have a laugh, as she did message my father a few days later to ‘tell on me’ 😂… and he pretty much said as tactfully as he could that she was interfering, didn’t understand boundaries, and pretty much shut down every assumption she had made. The shock on her face was apparently like a deer in headlights. She couldn’t and didn’t move or speak for like 5 minutes. Just stood there with her eyes wide and mouth open. Wish I could have seen it.
ultimately
- I am incredibly sad. In spite of what he has said and done
- That they are questioning paternity (hence dates above). And I can say with confidence that I DID NOT cheat on my husband. I barely left the bloody house!
- I agreed straight away when there was a question and insinuation on paternity. But it didn’t really hit me that it meant someone or all of them think I’ve been unfaithful. I have not! 100% I’ve not had sex or anything with anyone outside my husband.
- I do realise my husband has to make a decision on his relationship with his family. I don’t want that woman near me or my child. She is a drunk and a bully.
I feel like I’m going crazy!
is it possible to be pregnant given the dates above? Or did they make a mistake? Obviously I’ll know a little more on the scan I’m having next week.
PLEASE HELP! Any information… I feel like everyone is making these decisions and insinuations about my life, and I’m not being included. I need to be ok for this child. I’m scared I’ll breakdown if this stuff continues.
please help 😥