What was your chemical pregnancy bleeding like?

[Fagin99]

I'm 4 weeks + 4, and today I started what looks like the beginning of a period. Emotionally, I'm absolutely devastated, this baby was much longed for, but I'm trying to prepare practically for what is probably to come. Was the bleeding much like a normal period when you had a CP, or was it heavier/clotty? Were usual sanitary pads enough?

Thank you for sharing your story - I know this will be difficult for you too xx

And was it more painful? Thank you x

Hi OP, I'm so sorry for your loss. Mine was like a very heavy period and it lasted a bit longer than usual. Heavy flow sanitary pads were enough for me. Cramping was worse than usual but painkillers made it tolerable. I found the usual period relief aids such as heat pads were really helpful. One thing to watch out for is it left me very tired and more emotional than usual so please give yourself time to heal and to grieve. My inbox is open if you want to chat to someone. My loss was at just shy of 4 weeks. Take care of yourself.

Hi @Fagin99

So sorry you're going through this, some bleeding can be normal in pregnancy

My bleeding started off brown and looked like coffee grounds, that's the only way I can explain it and for a few days I could get away with panty liners until my actual period started. My tests also started to get a lot lighter.

Sorry again you're going through this, I hope you have a different outcome xx

Mine was at 4+1, It was just like a heavier than usual period.

Sorry that you’re going through this.

Sorry your going through this. 💐 My miscarriage happened at around 6 weeks. It was quite a gradual process though and I had spotting for over a week before the full bleeding started. It wasn't anymore painful than a regular period and I only experienced back ache with mine - no cramping at all. The bleeding slso resembled an ordinary period.

i got pregnant again the following month and have a healthy 7,5 month old now! I did have some bright red bleeding at around 4.5 weeks but scans showed no issues so wanted to reassure you that blood doesn't always mean the worse case scenario.

Good luck!

Thank you all so much for your replies. And thank you @MrsWidgerysLodger for your offer of your inbox. That is incredibly kind.

@ALonelyRoad Thank you for your encouragement and congratulations on your little one. I'll call the GP again tomorrow with an update but the colour/texture is becoming more like a period rather than spotting so I don't feel hopeful.

I'll just have to try to get through the night. Right now I'm just a shaking mess, but at least if I know what to expect, then it will mean I can prepare practically for the bleeding etc. Thank you xx

Hi OP, sorry for your loss.
I lost my last pregnancy around the same time as you. I think everyone's experience will be different.
Personally, I bled lightly for about a week then had full on heavy bleeding for another week
I didn't find it any more painful than a usual period , but it depends what your own period pain is like

@Fagin99, unfortunately it does sound like a MC if the bleeding is progressing. Again, I'm so sorry. It's a devastating situation. Sending you a hand hold but I hope you have someone in real life who is able to support you as, for me at least, it was a huge thing to deal with emotionally. Don't keep it to yourself!

If it helps at all, you're supposedly more fertile after a loss so if and when you're ready to try again, it could happen quickly.

Thank you for the congratulations!

Thank you, I appreciate your messages. I've been up all night crying so they come as a welcome support.

I've had conflicting advice from the GP and the midwife. The GP said to expect a mostly normal period and to do a pregnancy test once I've stopped bleeding to confirm it's negative (she offered blood tests at the hospital but I don't have the energy for it.)
However, when I called the midwife to cancel my booking appointment, she said that I need to pass an obvious clot, and, if I don't, to call back as I might need scan to make sure it's passed.

This confused me greatly. May I ask if anyone else passed the embryo at such an early loss? Many thanks xx

You won’t be passing an obvious clot. It will just be like a period at this stage.

I really don’t want to sound dismissive of your longed for baby, but it is just cells right now. You will just have a slightly longer period.

Thank you, that's what I thought too, which is why I was confused by the midwife's advice. So far it's just been like a normal period. I know it's early day though.

Sorry to hear you are going through this :( it is the worst.

My chemical pregnancy was just like a normal period really. If I hadn't taken the pregnancy test I wouldn't have known,and would just have thought my period was a little late. It didn't make it much easier though,as I was heartbroken! I still have the pregnancy tests in my drawer.

My miscarriage was heavier though- but that was further along at 6 to 7 weeks. That started out like the 'coffee grounds ' that people say (that's exactly what it looked like) but then progressed to much heavier than a period :(

If it's any consolation, we did get pregnant with sticky babies both times fairly quickly after though. It doesn't stop us remembering the losses, though. Hope you take care of yourself.

Hi, thanks so much for your reply, and I'm so sorry you've gone through this. It's so awful isn't it, and I'm so pleased to hear you managed to have successful pregnancies.

I definitely passed the pregnancy tissue yesterday evening, which surprised me, and made me wonder if I was further along than I thought. At first it was like a small round clot, and then a more stringy bit. I can't stop thinking about it to be honest, but I know that is just part of the grieving process. It just feels like a heavy period now. X

Pregnancy tissue is grey

Dark red clots are just womb lining

Thank you, I didn't share the colour of the clot you may notice.

So sorry to hear that you experienced this @Fagin99 you never forget it really. It is quite traumatic to be honest :(

I'm very sorry!
Mine was like a normal period, a day or 2 late. Had I not tested I wouldn't have known the difference. Wishing you look for a healthy pregnancy soon ❤️