Anxiety for 1st scan after mmc

[1111hope]

Hi I’d like some positive stories please!! I sadly had a mmc at 5w 3d on November 1st. I am now 5w 5d and due to the miscarriage the hospital are going to do a scan next Thursday (6w 6d) to check everything is ok. I can’t get my last scan from the previous pregnancy where they said they couldn’t see anything (as I was about to miscarry) and it’s giving me insane anxiety to the point I don’t want to go to the scan and be told bad news I’m so scared. Anyone been pregnant after mmc and got some lovely stories to tell me pleaseeee xx

Hi @1111hope sorry for your loss. Don't have any advice just didn't want to read and run. I'm in a similar situation. Iv had 3 miscarriages and my first I got told there was no heartbeat and my third was not visible as I was losing it. Iv also got a scan on Tuesday at 6 weeks 4 days and I feel physically sick when I think about it xx

@My2boysaremyworld oh my goodness so sorry to hear! Best of luck! Praying for both of us next week xx

@1111hope yes got everything crossed xx

I had a mmc and then had to wait a similar time - my son is now a 6ft teenager - it was a worrying time but it was all ok

Good luck and try to take your mind off things - easier said than done

x

Sorry you went through that 💐
I had 3 miscarriages. Took us about 2 years of trying and we became pregnant with DS. He's now 13 months old and an absolute dream.

It's so stressful waiting for the scans but try to take everyday as it comes. Opt for extra private scans throughout the first trimester if it helps.

I also checked this calculator everyday until I reached a certain point. https://datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer it helped me so much.

Best of luck, OP.

So sorry for your loss!
Just try and keep yourself as busy and distracted as you can! It is such a scary time!
Talk to people who are close, have days out over the weekend, watch a box set, go for walks. The time will pass eventually!

And always remember....once you had a positive scan the miscarriage risk is very small compared to before!
I had to have a termination at 15 weeks with my first pregnancy due to alethal fetal abnormality. Then my 2nd pregnancy was a miscarriage.
Both were very much wanted pregnancies.
But I can report that I am currently looking at my 2 very healthy children which I had without any problem during pregnancy!
My best friend told me afterwards that she was worried I wouldn't bond with my kids as I never spoke about pregnancies. Didn't tell work and most people until after 20 weeks scan. (Told some people early though as I would have shared any problems with them) I bonded well with them. But I wasvery much trying not to think about it till 20 weeks and 2nd scan and then counting down the weeks until they would survive if born early. As it happens both mine were late.
Good luck! Really feel for you and having everything crossed!

Hey!

I went through an early loss with no baby present on the scan at around 7 weeks and i'm now pregnant for the second time and am 39 weeks! - so close to meeting my baby girl💖🫶🏻🥰

I really hope everything works out at your scan- the odds are in your favour🫶🏻

Thanks everyone your replies are so sweet! Praying all will be ok 🤍🤍

Positive story for you!

I have a healthy 5 year old son but last January I had a mmc at 14 weeks. Baby had died at 11 weeks. I saw the completely still, no blood flowing etc little baby on the scan. Completely devastated and broke my son's heart telling him too!

I'm now 27+3 with my baby girl! The first few scans are petrifying. I had a scan at 6 weeks, 13 weeks, 13+4 (for bleeding) which I physically was shaking when entering the room, I could barely get myself seated properly for the scan. The NHS 12 week one at 13 weeks was in the exact same room I found out about my loss in.

I had a private 4d scan on Saturday, the first time I will actually allow my son to come as I've always thought 'just incase, what if' but I can feel little lady beating me up everyday! So I finally have that extra reassurance. I won't fully believe it until she's safely here in my arms but it does happen. One mmc doesn't mean you will not go on to have a healthy pregnancy after.

Distract yourself as much as possible, focus on your breathing in the waiting room and remember your body can do this x

sorry about your miscarriage. my first pregnancy was a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks but had stopped growing at 5 weeks 3 days so that sticks in my head. I was so so anxious the next pregnancy and the other after that but thankfully they were fine and resulted in my daughter and son. I found it really took the shine off pregnancy having been through a miscarriage and I had loads of private scans to put myself at ease. fingers crossed for you

@Ttcmumma thank you so much for going into so much detail your story made me tear up I’m so happy your baby girl is on the way, thank you so much xxx

@GetUpStandUp4 sorry to hear about your first loss so pleased you were able to have 2 healthy babies afterwards! It’s a real shame isn’t it because it takes all the excitement and fun out of being pregnant because I’m just so anxious incase anything goes wrong xx

Hi OP - sorry to hear about your MMC, I had one at 9 weeks last summer which was only discovered at an early scan. I fell pregnant again in October and booked into the EPU at 7 weeks. I totally empathise with your nerves - I was a total mess.

I told myself the only way through was through, and I couldn't change the outcome either way, no matter how much I worried. I was still in tears before they even started the scan - but the doctors understood and everything was ok. I'm 16 weeks now.

I expected to feel elated after that first scan, but I think once you've been through a miscarriage you are so aware of what can go wrong, it steals some of the joy. I was immediately worried about the next milestone, and I'm still not sure I believe it's real! Take each day as it comes, sending you a hand hold and all the best of luck

@Pilchycat all these stories are making me cry haha! I’m so happy you are now 16 weeks that’s a great milestone to achieve! Really sorry to hear about your loss too! I’ve actually booked to go see the new mean girls next Wednesday with my bestie (30 and living our 11 year old self again haha) so it will keep me distracted the night before my scan and busy! I might book the full day off tbh and ask my partner to too so we can maybe go for a celebratory lunch afterwards if all ok!! I know what you mean though I don’t think I’ll settle til after 12 weeks and even then maybe not haha. I definitely feel different to my last pregnancy which I hope is a good sign! Xx

@1111hope I was thinking of going for lunch with OH if it's good news x

@My2boysaremyworld you should! You are two days before me I wish I was Tuesday 🤣 xx

@1111hope it's going to drag isn't it xx

I had a mmc, then a successful pregnancy and ds is now 9 months old. Being honest here- I was anxious for the first 20 weeks until the second scan. Even after seeing a private 9 week scan and a nhs 13 week scan I was still convinced it would end like the first pregnancy. After the 20 week scan I became more positive about it. Good luck and I hope it all goes well for you.

I had a MMC in April our 1st successful round after 12 years of IVF procedures, went for viability scan to see a big empty sac, growing sac 2 weeks later and HCG increase but nothing there, it was a horrible, horrible time.
BUT the IVF clinic actually saw it as a positive I had got pregnant my body knew what to do but the embryo was very likely not viable. Spurred on by this 6 months later we had another go and I'm now 17 weeks with what is so far a perfect pregnancy. It has been very stressful especially the early scans but you just have to take each step at a time. Yes it could happen again but there is more chance that it won't and all the stress and worry will be absolutely worth it.