Who's the dad?

[Buglife22]

So I'm 16+4 by my dates 16 by nhs due date.
Slept with my ex all in August and September. Dates from the 13th-24th all with a condom but it did split around the end date I think. I had a light bleed during the time too that we was having sex.

My ex came back on the scene from September 30th-7th by the 15th I'd had a clear blue test put me as 1-2 weeks.
Both men know. But I can't work it out. I'm guessing my ex as that was all unprotected, however he has had testicular cancer and had a testicle removed and chemotherapy so I don't know if that could affect his sperm count? No idea.

If I count back 16 weeks that puts me at September the 13th ish?

You conceived at the time you were "2 weeks pregnant" by dates, not 0, because pregnancies are dated from last period, not conception.

Also you've only mentioned one man, so not sure how we could give any useful input.

There both ex's obviously it's not the same man if I'm asking who the dad could be. 😂. I didn't really have a last period I had a light bleed end of September and 10 days later by October was getting positive tests.

Well your post is pretty much impenetrable wrt what actually happened so the only advice anyone can give is to do a paternity test, either an expensive prenatal one or a standard one after the baby is born.

16 weeks ago was 21st September. So you likely conceived sometime in the Beginning of october, so it’s very likely to be the second guy.

if it was the first guy you would be a little bit further along.

More likely to be the second guy, but because of how long sperm can love in the female body, it's possible it could be either so you'll need to do a paternity test.

Your post is incomprehensive.
You start by saying you slept with your ex then your ex came around again..
If you had of mentioned there were two ex's involved in the original post if would have make alot more sense.
Given that you slept with one man on 24th and another on 30th my advice to take a paternity test. It could be either man. Sperm can live for upto 7 days in some men and implantion of the egg can vary in woman so there's absolutely no way anybody can tell you anything otherwise at this point. You'll have to wait until the child is born.
I don't understand why your having unprotected sex with one ex and not the other. Why not use protection with both of them?
And why proceed to have unprotected sex with a man after you've just said you know the condom split with last man. Surely you knew there was a chance impregnation from man 1 could already be happening at the time you slept with man 2? Your bound to have known it could end up a mess and it's not right to play with people's lives like this. Both men are now In the situation of not knowing which of them is the father.
I do hope you've been sensible and been tested for stds for your own safety and theres

Because the sex was great tbh and both knew about each other. Every one's fine with the situation and we will do a test. All std checked and fine. Was a great time. But thanks all.

You should have said ex1 and ex2, would make it less confusing!

You sound proud of the situation. Disgusting

Having unprotected sex with two different men for the reasons stated above , you need to value yourself a bit more. Not a classy comment

What's wrong with the situation? What because I'm not married and seeing one person. If my set up works for us all. Why's it an issue? Baby will have a dad either way and a close relationship to the other. No problem just wanted to know.

You don't know for sure who is the father of your child? Do you not think thats horrific?

No not really a dna test would prove it. No one's angry? We're all friends. Why is it bad? Some people don't know ever. It's basically a thruple

Grim.

This thread seems like it's purposely intent on reactions based on your replies.
Are you purposely trying to make yourself sound like a sl@g with your replies.
you sound incredibly immature.

Not knowing who the father of your child is because you slept with a second man after you'd had semen enter you from the first man isn't something you should be boasting about. It's down right disgusting . You sound like a really low class girl. That's probably why both men wanted to have sex with you. Your making yourself sound really easy

Wtf

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@Buglife22 to be honest OP, I think you should stop replying. Your replies are purposely giving people a reason to slate you.
I'm assuming your quite young.
You seem unfazed by the situation so perhaps you should just carry on with your life and wait until baby's born.
Putting up a post asking who the father is is always going to generate a reaction.
And I never understand the purpose. You slept with both men in a similar timeframe. People can give your opinions but nobody on here can tell you which man fathered your baby since sperm can live upto 7 days into the reproductive tract. The journey to womb and implantion differs. Some embryos are late to implant. A dna is the only way to know.

A lot of puritanical slut shaming on here.

For the record, I don’t think it’s immoral to have sex with more than one person. Nor (subtext to these comments) do I think it’s particularly immoral for women to do it (as compared with men). Everyone in this situation seems happy with it, so nobody is getting hurt.

Also some judgement about poor writing skills. Yes, the post is hard to follow but OP’s question remains the same, regardless of whether writing is a strength of hers or not.

Also, she has not said she regrets getting pregnant- everyone is just assuming the pregnancy is unwanted and a Bad Thing. But maybe she was having unprotected sex because she felt ready for motherhood.

I don’t have anything to add to answer OP’s actual question, but I just wanted to step in and check the Victorian lynch mob.

Breaking news: women don't have to be fucking classy you bunch of slut shaming sexists.

Women can have sex with whoever they want, however they want, as much as they want and its not your damn business to comment or judge. Women can sleep around and be unclassy and there's nothing wrong with that, you just think there is because for centuries men have been telling you how women should be, which was just what they wanted women to be.

Not knowing the father of your child is very easily remedied with a paternity test. No one needs your judgement.