Absolutely petrified and struggling

[Rockyslife]

Last week I had an early scan due to some spotting, everything was ok with the scan but I was earlier than my calender predicted and there was only a gestal sack and a yolk but no baby yet so she dated me around 5 weeks. This week I am guessing I should be 6 weeks, but in my head I diddnt see a heart beat and don't even know if the baby has developed further than what we saw. I have had more spotting yesterday and a little more this morning, not a lot or anything heavy, we had been trying to conceive for 3 years and was starting ivf next month so as you can imagine my head is all over the place, I am scared, expecting the worst because we've had such bad luck. The midwife has said I need to hold out tol next Friday for my scan and if I bleed more or get cramps to go to a&e I just feel like there's no reassurance out there to settle your fears. I also ride horses, do you think I should stop riding completely at this stage? Again no advice from anyone medical as no one calls me back. I'm just so scared and don't know what's going on 😭

Hi OP. I have a bleeding disorder and my baby is apparently a miracle. Everything you’re writing can be normal. I was using a fertility tracker when i finally got pregnant. I had bleeding or spotting as I had many times before. And when I went for first scan there was no heartbeat. 2 weeks later it was pumping away. There is a disconnect between medical staff at times. In 2015 at the early unit in Lewisham they told me it was because in years gone by we wouldnt have known we we’re pregnant so early and we wouldnt have realised so many failed pregnancies. Now we know as soon as we are and staff have many more broken hearted women. Hang in there. I kept telling myself if i miscarried it wss nature doing its job

Did they discuss progesterone with you at all? I'm not sure if this applies to you, but if you have had a previous loss and are spotting you can request for progesterone. It can help. There is info on the Tommy's website about it. Some hospitals might turn you away, but you can try others. It should soon be the norm across all hospitals I am told. Really hope you are ok and that things turn out well.

@Rockyslife sorry you are struggling :( I know it is so hard when you have to wait to know what is happening. Good news as bleeding is light it's likely to be ok, probably harmless changes to your cervix as a result of pregnancy. Horseriding won't hurt the baby in any way (you know, unless you get actively kicked in the stomach by a horse but even then they are so well protected early on) but you might find that the movement is irritating your cervix more and making the bleeding more likely. As bleeding can really cause so much anxiety if it were me I'd take a break from it for a week or two, but if it's what you do to get out and help take your mind off things perhaps it's worth keeping going.

At 5w you won't be able to see a heartbeat, as the sac was an appropriate size for 5 weeks, it suggests your dates are very slightly out. It's very common at this stage and as they have said, there's nothing that can be done except for wait, scan you in 1-2 weeks and compare the two scans to make sure that the pregnancy is growing at the right rate.