I really struggled adapting to being a mum, it does get so much easier with more kids, you put less pressure on yourself and realise that it's really not the end of the world if you don't get things right all the time
The things that make me feel like I've got my s##t together:
Newborn stage
-always pack the changing bag the night before. Even if you're not going anywhere, have it packed so that if plans change you can go anywhere you need at a moments notice
-baby wearing so that you can do housework etc and baby is content
-try to get to baby groups first thing In the morning, helps tire baby out so that you can do any errands (or relax and have baby cuddles) in the afternoon when they're sleeping
Toddlers
-try and get outside every day. Puddle suit and wellies in bad weather. They love the simple things like a dog walk or feeding the ducks
-pack the bag. Lots of snacks
-try out lots of baby groups, make friends, most you won't keep in touch with but some will stick with you for life
-rotate toys to stop them getting bored from the same ones or not playing with most of their toys
Kids
-i only let mine have 1 club each at a time, partly for the logistics, also because they underestimate how tiring school is still for them and a lot of the time mine want to just come home and decompress
-we don't have YouTube in our house, banned it a year ago and the change in their behaviour has been amazing. They are less materialistic and are more likely to find things to do like arts and crafts or playing in the garden
-10 minutes chatting one on one every day is better than taking them on an expensive outing once a week. All they really want is your time and undivided attention
Can't comment on other ages as I'm not there yet. Although kids give you a totally new normal and you will never be the same, the fact we get to guide these little people on how the world works and help shape them into their own individual person is pretty cool 😁