Telling him via text message

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I've been dating a guy for 3 months now. Still very early days. I've found out I'm pregnant and planning on telling him tomorrow via text message. I was going to tell him next week and see if he was free to meet in person but he's been so busy with work not sure if it'll happen. I don't think I can keep it to myself any longer and don't particularly want to share news with anyone else right now.

This was an unplanned pregnancy, and I took the morning after pill 2 days later so very much a surprise.

Can anyone help with how to start off the text because I want to draft it tonight.

Yes I know it sounds crazy! But it's either text or phone call as can't see each other this weekend.

If you cant do it face to face, the least you should do is a phone call.

I know you might feel awkward but its the grown up thing to do

I think if you can't give news like that in person it should at least be a phone call. Just my 2 cents

Unless he is an abusive sob you need to do this face to face or at the very least over the phone.

But before you talk to him have you had thoughts on what you want in terms of keeping the baby? May be wise to be sure what you want before you talk.

You can't text unless it's to ask him to ring you, why can't you do a facetime or video call.

Your going to parent a child together.
I think a text message is just very immature and disrespectful way to tell someone they are going to be a father.
At the very least a phone call . Not text message Jesus Christ

That is a face to face conversation, sorry.

You were on contraception and when this failed you took the morning after pill.

So I am assuming you don't actually want a child? So what is your plan?

Better be clear about your plans and intentions as he is unlikely to be pleased by the news of the pregnancy.

Your going to parent a child together.

How did you reach this conclusions, @MoonstoneGoddess

Well, what’s the plan first? Or do you not know at this stage?
I really would gently push for a face-to-face meeting. Not only is it a better way to break the news, you’ll be able to gauge a lot more from his reaction and the ensuing conversation.

How far along are you? Have you had a scan? I would check it's a viable pregnancy first

Text and say I really need to talk to you,

OP can you give yourself a bit of space to decide what it is you want to do?
If you want to have a termination it might be good to have that clear in your own mind before telling him. And equally if you have decided that you don't.
Best of luck.

I have no clue about what to do with the pregnancy so just coming to terms with it. I think I'm almost 7 weeks now due to taking the pill I wasn't surprised about the period which I just thought was late.

He's not an abusive man at all. Soft spoken and decent.

I've taken what you've all said and will ask for a face to face. I've got a big feeling that's not going to happen. He has to travel down south a lot of work so just preparing myself for the phone call.

How old are you OP? Do you want a baby one day in the future?

I'm 28, and yes I do.

I would book a private scan before you tell him, especially as you took the morning after pill. If you're 7 weeks then you should be able to see a heartbeat. At least then you know where you stand, and you can show him a pic if you want.

We're meeting tomorrow so I can tell him. But he's asking what it's about and I don't know what to say. I haven't responded to the last text message.

Sorry I just really don't know what to say.

Hope it goes well OP

I’d prefer to talk with you in person.

Don’t apologise, just say you’d like to talk tomorrow.

You can just say tell him he’ll find out tomorrow what’s this about.

You don't have to reply. Just try and get a good night's sleep and chill out as much as you can.
Good luck tomorrow.

All the best for tomorrow.

Keep your dignity tomorrow.

It does take two.

Know your decision and what you want going forward.

Good luck. Whatever the choice is, so long as you decide it, then it's the right one.

Whatever happens, it takes two so don’t apologise, don’t take the blame or responsibility. Try to have an idea of what you want to do about it, with or without him. Hopefully he’s supportive, though I’m sure it’ll be a shock, if you needed to take the morning after pill it shouldn’t be tooo much of a shock! Good luck!