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16 weeks anxious help!

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JRTfan · 09/01/2024 09:36

I am 40- 16 weeks pregnant IVF after 12 years of various treatments, a couple of early miscarriages etc so it's definitely been a journey.
I've had 4 scans (6 weeks, 8 weeks and 2 x NHS dating scans) all have been as they should be. We had the downs, patau and Edwards test at 12 weeks- low risk.
I've had no symptoms since the beginning which I know makes me lucky but it's also unnerving.
I am constantly anxious that the baby will just die inside me or already has. I know from reading other threads that this feeling is common and the odds are in my favour but I also know there is a chance that things can and do go wrong. I developed a decent bump at 14 weeks which has now shrunk, I know it was probably bloating but my stupid brain tells me it's because the baby stopped growing.
We have a scan booked on Thursday as reassurance and my mum is coming along- I'm terrified we will get there and have bad news. Anyway sorry for the long post just seeing if anyone else in same boat or can offer some reassurance that I'm not completely insane!

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janfebmarchapril · 09/01/2024 09:43

Completely understandable. I found that bit really hard because you're just in limbo- don't have any scans, can't pee On a stick, no kicks. I was like you and had no symptoms and it's like you're not even pregnant! I had a MW app at 16 weeks and she was also my MW with my first, some trusts listen to the HB at that app but mine dosent but she did listen as I said I was just in limbo and it's horrible etc so she very kindly did listen which made me relax abit.

I'm sure the scan will be absolutely perfect ❤️

I promise it gets easier once they start kicking xx

JRTfan · 09/01/2024 09:59

Thank you @janfebmarchapril this is my 1st I'm not an anxious person at all normally and it may or may not help that DH is practically horizontal..and just enjoying a blissful ride!
The midwife listens to the heartbeat at the 16 week appointment, this was meant to be yesterday so I was planning to hopefully get that reassurance before the scan, however she's now postponed to Friday which isn't helpful when the scan is Thursday! It's that 1st 10 seconds of the scan I hate when there is complete silence and my blood just runs cold.

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janfebmarchapril · 09/01/2024 12:17

Itl get better and I know it seems ages away but a lovely way to start the weekend ❤️

JRTfan · 11/01/2024 18:46

Just to update we had the scan and everything was perfect! We are having a girl..
Now I'm going to chill out and enjoy, until the 20 week scan!

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janfebmarchapril · 13/01/2024 13:33

Ah lovely news huge congratulations 🩷🩷

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