Sperm donation (co parenting website)

[Jody2024]

Hi,

I'm new to this site. My now ex partner and I had a miscarriage when I was 40. I was only trying for a baby for 3 months and got pregnant easily. Since then we've split up. I hoped I'd meet someone new but I haven't. I'm now 43 and want a baby and considering the sperm donation route. I've had my fertility checked and everything is good. I'm wondering if anyone here has tried that? I'm on the co parenting website and another and obviously I've had to sift through a few dodgy men but there seems to be some genuine ones on there. Has anyone else tired this? Has anyone here got pregnant by sperm donation and/or are a single mum? I'd be curious to hear other's experiences.

Jody

what kind of vetting do these websites provide?

Hi Jody. How did you get on with your search? I'm interested to know if you found somewhere legitimate.

I looked into it about 10 years ago. There was one guy on that website who sounded nice and normal, looked attractive, I thought about contacting him. I googled him before I did, and found him on another website looking for women who'd let him suck their milky breasts?!

Do you have any male friends who might be interested in co-parenting with you? It might be safer to go with someone you know.

Hello,

Wow so much has changed since then. Well I got talking to a guy who seemed genuine enough but I felt he had a lot of trauma and had done it 6 times already (which I found off putting) and then he said he wanted to do it 'NI' or 'PI' which I had to research/google and I said no to (that would have been emotionally confusing) and never met him. There was another guy that seemed nice but he lived too far and then he met someone so he kind of strung me along for a bit although I don't think it was intentional. Anyway I then made the decision that I didn't want to go down the donation route and I'd just wait until I meet someone and leave it to fate! And then I met my partner a couple of months later. I actually got pregnant by him quite quickly after we met and unfortunately had a miscarriage but we are going to try again.

Most of the men on there sites seemed to want free sex, I really didn't like it although there were a couple of genuine ones, but they were slim pickings.

Jody

Disgusting...

Thanks for the replies. I am a heterosexual male. I also found the web sites pretty sleazy, very confusing and potentially dangerous, which is what brought me to Mumsnet for some honest advice.

I don't want to donate. I'd like to have a child but I don't want to be in a full on relationship. I've been married and done that and currently have no desire to do it again (though I wouldn't rule it out). So where does a guy go to find a genuine person to co parent a child with, sharing the duties, finances etc? It's 2024 after all!

Jody, I hope things work out for you starting your family.

I guess you could try the sites again as I think there are more genuine women than men on there? But I hear you about being dangerous etc. I think you have to meet the women and go with your gut instinct.