Sharing pregnancy news with those struggling/unable to concieve

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Hi all!

We've made it to 12 weeks and are seeing some friends later, good friends who have been very supportive of our journey to getting our little miracle. However these friends have unfortunately been unsuccessful with IVF. I know they will be over the moon for us but I'm so worried about telling them in any way that might upset them.

I guess it is a given they will be personally upset, most likely not in front of us, as I know that is how I used to feel every time I heard news, and I know it doesn't relate to how they will be pleased for us as well it is always two separate emotions. But I just wondered if anyone had any advice on how to phrase it in the least painful way for them?

TIA x

A good friend spotted me in the fertility clinic - I had no idea she was also going through it. She was the first person I called when I found out I was pregnant, I didnt want her to hear from anyone else. She's always said she was deeply grateful and I was one of the first people she phoned when she got her BFP. I don't think there's a right or wrong way - it's always going to be painful.

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Pop them a text beforehand. I know this won’t be the same experience for everyone but friends of ours went awol for 3 months after we told them the news (via text). Everything is fine now and we talked it through but it just hurt them too much to be physically around us or hearing about the pregnancy, even seeing me with a bump.

Dont take any reaction personally, although it’s hard not to, but they need to process the feelings on their own time.

The text was a great shout so thanks all. Friends are over the moon and really appreciated the heads up, and are still looking forward to seeing us later. Thank you again everyone!

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I texted my friend. Just dropped it in there but quickly changed to subject to her and her new pet.