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Second Chemical in 3 months - Now What?

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heidibabydust · 05/01/2024 02:05

Hello all. Long time reader :)

I’d love to know if anyone has any advice or able to resonate/share their similar experience with me.

I am currently going through a chemical pregnancy - sitting at work in total agony. This is my 2nd chemical within 3 months. I have been TTC for 6-7 months. Healthy 33yo.
My first CP was in September 2023, having only tested positive on 14DPO.
By 15DPO night I had bad back pains, cramps and then started to bleed. We tried to fall again Oct and Nov - nothing. I never reached a positive OPK however, so may not have ovulated or got my regular cycle back yet.
Then got a positive in December cycle tracking OPK and BBT.

My TTC journey with this very short pregnancy was:
9DPO very very faint positive
10DPO faint positive
11 - 14DPO positive on digital
14DPO I had my first beta. Level came back as 9, which doctor said was very low but I may have implanted late. Progesterone was very low too.
15DPO + 16DPO still testing pregnant on digitals.
16DPO chemical.
No major symptoms during the whole time.

I used OPKs and BBT each cycle, and got a clear positive OPK which lasted 24 hours. Fairly certain I ovulated the next day (due to pains). I also think I felt implantation on 7DPO but couldn't be sure.

Lines were only getting darker ever so slightly, so I was already cautious. My first CP lines never got as dark as the control and then lighter on 15DPO.
Ever since getting my 9 beta on 14DPO on this cycle, I have been feeling crampy and off. 15DPO + 16DPO (today) still “pregnant” on digitals, however not for much longer I guess as I am now bleeding.

This morning I went and got my 2nd beta, but I am assuming it wouldn’t have gotten higher than 9 or if it did, not by much, as 2 hours later it was over.
I see my doctor in 2 days to discuss, she doesn’t know I am currently experiencing another CP yet.

My question. Is anyone able to share their stories on having successful pregnancies after 2+ chemicals? I am feeling quite low and not sure of my self.
Holding it together, knowing I am able to fall pregnant, but keeping little bean may need more assistance. Grateful to get this far, but now concerned…
I am going to ask to be referred to a gyno/OB to have more testing (I want to see my sister’s OB as she had a great experience - she had similar story to mine). My partner is also getting some testing done too.

ANY positive outcomes or advice greatly appreciated and welcomed.
Thank you :)

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ReetPetity · 05/01/2024 08:28

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We struggled with (secondary) infertility, a long journey including loss, until we had our gorgeous little boy last year. I remember how hard it all felt while we were in the thick of it though, and send hugs.

It sounds like you have a good doctor and that you’re planning a good next step in terms of testing.

Hard as it is (I know), it does help to try not to ruminate or worry too much. I had therapy while we were going through it to help me deal with all the disappointment, stress and (in my case) self blame. It was the best thing I did for myself during that time.

Infertility and baby-making can be such a complex area, and I’m not sure there’s any practical advice I can give — except for look after yourself, and I hope you welcome the baby that you are hoping for soon.

Mrsttcno1 · 05/01/2024 16:13

So sorry you’re going through this OP.

My best friend had 3 chemicals before having her son, so I hope that gives you some hope! Despite testing there was never any indication of any issues at all and she now has a healthy 1 year old, so if you do get referred for more tests and nothing is picked up, still try not to worry! X

MoonIightDreamer · 05/01/2024 16:22

Don't give up hope. I'm currently 12 weeks. My pregnancy is result of ivf but this is the furthest I've got. Had scans at 7 and 10 weeks and baby was fine. Have my next scan on Tuesday and praying everything goes well. Of course I think about the past. This day last January is when i bled with my last pregnancy. I couldnt get past the 4 week mark. makes me really anxious if this can actually happen but🤞

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heidibabydust · 06/01/2024 07:38

ReetPetity · 05/01/2024 08:28

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We struggled with (secondary) infertility, a long journey including loss, until we had our gorgeous little boy last year. I remember how hard it all felt while we were in the thick of it though, and send hugs.

It sounds like you have a good doctor and that you’re planning a good next step in terms of testing.

Hard as it is (I know), it does help to try not to ruminate or worry too much. I had therapy while we were going through it to help me deal with all the disappointment, stress and (in my case) self blame. It was the best thing I did for myself during that time.

Infertility and baby-making can be such a complex area, and I’m not sure there’s any practical advice I can give — except for look after yourself, and I hope you welcome the baby that you are hoping for soon.

Thank you so much. Your words really do mean a lot to me right now.
I am so glad you got to have your little boy. This positive outcome is exactly what I need to hear :) I will do my best to look after myself through this.

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heidibabydust · 06/01/2024 07:38

Mrsttcno1 · 05/01/2024 16:13

So sorry you’re going through this OP.

My best friend had 3 chemicals before having her son, so I hope that gives you some hope! Despite testing there was never any indication of any issues at all and she now has a healthy 1 year old, so if you do get referred for more tests and nothing is picked up, still try not to worry! X

Thank you so much!
I am so happy for your friend, that is a wonderful outcome. :)

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heidibabydust · 06/01/2024 07:46

MoonIightDreamer · 05/01/2024 16:22

Don't give up hope. I'm currently 12 weeks. My pregnancy is result of ivf but this is the furthest I've got. Had scans at 7 and 10 weeks and baby was fine. Have my next scan on Tuesday and praying everything goes well. Of course I think about the past. This day last January is when i bled with my last pregnancy. I couldnt get past the 4 week mark. makes me really anxious if this can actually happen but🤞

Thank you, and congratulations! That is wonderful :) I wish you a healthy journey ahead!

I also need to get past the 4-4.5 week mark myself. I do believe if you have suffered a loss in a previous pregnancy it does make it hard to not stress through the next, but one day at a time. <3

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