5 months no luck :(

[JAZ981020]

Hi all

I came off the pill mid August and me and my partner have been trying for a baby.
I got a faint positive line in October but unfortunately had a miscarriage
Since then, I have had no incline of getting remotely close to pregnancy.
I have tried to track my ovulation and not getting very positive lines appearing.
A couple years back I had a termination as I was very, very young and my partner at the time made me go through with it. I feel like this is my karma!
Doctors won't help me as they say it needs to be a year or have 3 miscarriages. I'm not sure what to do? Can anyone advise on maybe home remedy fertility boosts? I don't want to order tablets online and affect my chances more without any recommendations

Thanks in advance

That’s really not any reason to worry, especially as you have got pregnant in that time, and likely takes time for natural cycles to return after the Pill. The Premom ovulation tests and app are good. Otherwise just being as healthy as you can; no booze; healthy diet, exercise - both of you. Definitely do not buy any tablets online, no idea what you’d buy though. The only supplements you need are folic acid and vitamin D.

@JAZ981020 well it definitely isn't karma, there's nothing to suggest you are infertile at this point as the definition means not achieving a pregnancy with 12 months of regular unprotected sex. But even if you were it is just something that happens, being fertile is not some kind of reward. It's taken my 4 years and a lot of IVF to get pregnant and it's just the way it is. I didn't do anything to cause it.

You ideally need to be on folic acid for 3 months before trying to conceive, are you taking this.

You should get yourself on a prenatal vitamin (most will have the recommended daily allowance of folic acid for pregnancy). This is the one I take: NATURELO Prenatal Multivitamin - Natural Vitamins & Minerals - Active Folate, Iron & Calcium - Essential Nutrients During Pregnancy & Conception - No GMO - 180 Vegan Capsules | 2 Month Supply amzn.eu/d/di0YiMl you need to take 3 capsules a day if this one.

Coenzyme Q10 is also useful for egg quality, I use this one: CoQ10 200mg - 120 Vegan Capsules of High Strength Co Enzyme Q10 (4 Months Supply) - 100% Pure and Naturally Fermented Ubiquinone Coenzyme - No Synthetic Additives - Made in The UK by Nutravita amzn.eu/d/4438Sbq

You mention not getting confirmation of the LH surge, do you have signs that you might not be ovulating regularly? Long and irregular cycles for example?

5 months isn't long at all, be careful because there's lots of IVF mums on this forum!

You can get sperm tested privately quite easily and for not too much money, so that's an option you could look into if you want to start doing any investigations.

Be happy!

I was in a similar journey. After married four years ago, we naively thought as soon as we didn't use condom, we will have kids right away! ha!! And fast forward to four years later, when both my husband and I ready to seek professional help, we went to a fertility clinic and prepared for the last preferable option - IVFs. At the consultation stage, we did generic fertility tests and took advice tailored to us. And within one month, I fell pregnant naturally. I would say we were also lucky to met a doctor very sympathetic , he is very cheerful and made us felt at ease. I think that had changed our mindset which potentially had helped massively.

Agree with others basic requirements to be healthy (diet and exercise), stress-free generally keep yourself or both of you very happy. Supplements and no alcohol.

DM me if you would like referral of that doctor I consulted from!

Good luck!

Hi all

Apologies, I don't mean to offend anyone! My heads a bit all over the place!
I think it may have come across in a different way than what I hoped! I was just hoping for a little advice really! Since the miscarriage, it has really affected me and start to wonder "is there something wrong with me and why I can't conceive?"
My partner has had 3 children in previous relationship so looking for advice/help for myself on what I can do to help get pregnant.
I have bought a bunch of ovulation strips and each cycle never seem to get a positive result and was not sure whether there was something that can help boost my ovulation. Regardless of the result, we do have regular sex just in case there is that small chance. My periods are a little irregular.. I can go from 1 day late to a few to a week.
Very sorry again if I did offend anyone as that was not my intention

5 months is nothing. A gp wouldn't even look at you after 5 months trying.
Took me almost 19 years of ivf to get pregnant with this little one.
There's no magic home remedy for getting pregnant.
Even healthy couples with no issues struggle. It's pot luck.
All you can do is eat right exercise keep your weight healthy take a pre natal and hope for the best. If you haven't conceived within 1-2 years speak to your gp then. It varys per area. Some gps will offer bloods after 1 year others it's 2

As others have said, 5 months is nothing especially given that during that period you did fertilise and implant an egg. Odds on that twice in a 5 month period with the stress of a miscarriage would be fairly low I imagine!

You don't mention your age, weight, smoking/drinking but I'm assuming you can do all you can to improve the latter if you need to.

I found tracking BBT very useful with regards to understanding ovulation and best times to try.

A couple years back I had a termination as I was very, very young and my partner at the time made me go through with it. I feel like this is my karma!

It absolutely is not your karma!

Your post above implies you are still young. As others say above there are plenty of things you can do to improve your chances.

How old is your partner and what is his health and lifestyle like? The popular book is called "It Starts with the Egg" but sperm matters too.

I had my coil (copper so wasn’t even on hormonal birth control) out July 2022 and got a positive pregnancy test July 2023. The first 3 months it was pretty casual but for 8 months I was tracking properly until we fell pregnant. It can feel really disheartening especially when you want something really badly. I remember being at a dinner party 10 months in and people were discussing how quickly they had gotten pregnant with their babies.

One of these friends who got pregnant 2nd month of trying for their first, is now 9 months in to try for their second baby. 5 months in the grand scheme of things is a very short amount of time but some people just get very lucky and you often hear those stories so can warp what your sense of normal is.

My mother wasn’t trying to get pregnant when she got pregnant with my sister and the same when she got pregnant with me. Some people just are lucky.

My partner is 34, non smoker, very fit & active goes to gym everyday.
I am 25, non smoker, I am not as fit as my partner but I eat well & have started exercising a couple days a week. I drink only for occasions so not very often.
Realising from the comments, I think I am overthinking it a bit too much

Honestly, my best advice is stay busy - don’t wait around for it to happen. Keep making plans with your partner and your friends, whatever makes you happy

5 months is nothing. Honestly. Keep trying.

Don't despair. My periods were all over the place after coming off the pill. It took us a most a year to conceive and we had DD. 9 months after she was born we fell pregnant with DS.
Never thought it would happen so fast as it had taken so long the first time.

It sounds really silly but I was tracking every month and stressing, the month we conceived DD was the only time I wasn't tracking and stressing and we didn't even know it was my fertile window. Try to relax and maybe loosen up with the constant tracking, I think it can make things worse

Hi lovely
gosh I think your post has been massively taken out of context! Termination guilt it a real thing and no one should tell you how you should or do feel about it.

im 33 and my partner is 45 both fit and healthy. We were trying for about 6/7 months but it was quite ‘casual’. The best thing I did was buy the Mira ovulation tracke, it is quite expensive but the second month using it I got pregnant. Not sure if you’ve tried something like that or just the strips but I really recommend it x

Took me 6 months after coming off the pill, I think it takes a good while for the hormones to leave your system and your cycle to be back on track. I actually found it less stressful not tracking anything, just relax and enjoy the trying process. You sound like you have no pre existing issues that would effect ovulation or cycle etc and considering your age especially I would try not to worry, you're young and sound healthy so I'm sure it will happen soon.
I had a chemical the month I came off the pill so understand the worry that sets in.

If you started trying in August and miscarried in October, it took you 2 months to conceive. Since October it’s also only been 2-3 months so I think it’s extremely early to worry about anything! A single miscarriage doesn’t say anything about your fertility, it’s unfortunately very common in early pregnancy and usually just one of those things.

5 months is nothing I'm afraid to say. Can take years.