How to deal with anxiety worrying about MMC

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I am currently 12 weeks. I had a private scan at 10 weeks and baby seemed fine. Heartbeat and measuring ok. One day behind but sonographer said wouldn't worry about that but now I'm awaiting my first nhs scan. I still don't know when it's going to be as they won't give me a date. I just can't help but shake the worry I've had a mmc. I know this is down to past miscarriages. How does anyone handle the wait between scans ect. I ate nothing healthy over Christmas. Pure saturated fat and salty party foods. Just pure junk. I also had severe bowel problems as a result . Now I keep thinking it's probably affected my pregnancy.
I don't know I just keep fearing I'm going to go to my first nhs scan and we won't find a heartbeat. It'd scary the amount of women I've seen on here said they had a mmc so clearly it's very common.
I had pcos and I know hormone disorders and blood sugars can contribute to a miscarriage which I suspect is what happened my previous 2 pregnancies. 15 years and ivf it's taken for this miracle. Haven't got this far before.
I don't really know what I'm expecting from this post . I just feel I need to vent. I had a booking appointment and expressed my anxiety to midwife but she just dismissed it

Honestly I don't think anything does really help other than time passing. Nothing ever helped me anyway in either pregnancy. I had bleeding this first trimester so that was a worry and then even after two early scans and the 12 week scan I still felt anxious until I started to feel baby move. But then you have the anxiety of the anomaly scan and checking everything is okay. I'm 23 weeks now and finally feel like this is really happening. Anxiety for me eases at around 24 weeks when you get to viability.

Sorry I know that's not very helpful but just wanted to say your feelings are completely valid and I have everything crossed you have a positive outcome. The rate of miscarriage after a heartbeat at 10 weeks is really low also.

Hey, firstly congratulations. Ivf twin mama here 4 awful losses before I finally had my miracles but miracles really do happen.

Everyone told me to stay positive etc nothing helped I was certain I had a mmc all the way until I felt them move. Just rest assured nothing you done eating wise had any affect!

Only thing I can say is the statistics are extremely positive after seeing a heartbeat at 10 weeks so try your best to relax and keep your mind distracted.

You got this mama

Thanks ladies.
Yes I completely agree, I think it'll be alot easier when I can actually feel baby move. I suppose that's part of the anxiety isn't it, you just don't know when something is wrong if you can't feel any movement ect to reassure you

Hi I just want to say I'm in exactly the same boat. 12 years of trying 7 rounds of IVF and never got this far. I am almost 16 weeks, have had 4 scans so far (had to have the NHS dating scan twice as they couldn't get measurements 1st time) and am now starting to get a bump but still so worried it'll all go wrong.
As much as I should practice what I preach I will say for reassurance that a miscarriage especially a missed one after 12 weeks is rare I believe around 1%..the reason you see it a lot on here is because people tend to post the abnormal or bad rather than the normal successful outcomes that are the vast majority.
Having said that though I do know exactly how you feel, we have started to tell people now and it's been hard but the amount of people telling me to just relax and enjoy it suggests that I'm maybe being a bit irrational.