I've drank alcohol in pregnancy

[Stargazer03]

I know nobody can really advise me but I'm just looking for comfort really. Last night I attended a ny party with my best friend of 23 years.
There was only 5 of us. A man she's hooking up with and the others are women she's recently met on nights out.
I'd been helping my friend at her house during the evening looking after her boy while she was out and helping to make food. I started having alot of stomach pain and told her I was going to go home. She told me just relax and begged me not to leave to just chill on the sofa. I brought non alcoholic drinks to the party. I haven't touched alcohol since before September as we were doing ivf. I'm currently 11 weeks. She knew I'm pregnant and she wasn't drunk at all.
I've had alot of swelling as I had ohss from the ivf which meant my ovaries are still enlarged coupled with bowel problems. I went to get up to get my drink over in the kitchen and i do struggle getting up and down still with pain as pregnancy prolongs ohss. my friend said you stay there ill get your drink. I was talking to one of the other girls and she brought me a drink in from the kitchen. I hadn't ever had a fake alcohol drink before so didn't think anything usual. I assumed it's meant to taste similar since that's the purpose of them isn't it? Non alcoholic booze? She continued to do this and told me not to strain myself. She wasn't drunk at all but after a few I started to feel very funny. Tipsy. I didn't know what was happening me and said I'm going for fresh air and noticed my non alcoholic drinks weren't even opened. She had been giving me alcoholic drinks.
I've been absolutely besides myself that I've drank alcohol during my pregnancy. This is not something I would ever choose to do and I'm just really concerned about rhe effects on my baby now

I didn’t know I was pregnant with my first until I was newly 4 months and I drank and smoked totally unknowingly. My daughter is fine so try not to worry …. Fuck your friend off though she’s not a friend x

What the fuck? Your friend is a moron at best, a manipulative and irresponsible bitch at worst. Did you confront her about her reckless, selfish behaviour?

I didn't know I was pregnant and drank loads at my birthday party.
The baby is now 16 and a right smart Alec!

Definitely fuck her off. She's not a friend

I didn't know I was pregnant for weeks and drank gin on a couple nights out. DS was fine. It was a one off so don't worry. She is NOT a friend though. Stay clear of her.

You’ll be absolutely fine as will baby. But your friend isn’t a friend.

You will both be fine- it's one off, but your friend is awful for doing that!

I don't think a once off will do irreparable harm. But this event should end your friendship, she sounds horrible.

Speak to your doctor tomorrow just for reassurance but I'm sure you'll be fine with a once off. I think it's regular alcohol that causes damage.

You don’t need to worry about the drinks but you do need to worry about the 'friends' you keep. She's no friend

Your "friend" is not a friend.

Distance yourself from her.

In regards to your pregnancy you and the baby to be should be fine.

What drinks were they and how many? If it was just a couple of relatively weak drinks then I wouldn’t give it a second thought, but stronger ones then maybe mention it to your midwife. Also ditch the friend.

DP didn't know she was pregnant until she went into labour, luckily she's not a huge drinker but did have a few boozy nights and a hen weekend over those nine months. (As well as a day at Alton Towers, a weekend at a music festival and finally ice skating 3 days before she went into labour)

DD is now 16, very well adjusted and on course for straight As at GCSE.

You'd have to be very unlucky for one night of drinking to cause problems. Mention it to your midwife but try not to worry about it.

And ditch your "friend", she's a twat.

I drank a lot and smoked during my pregnancy with DS1. I only knew i was pregnant quite late. He graduated from a russel group uni with a first last year. Don’t worry!

You'll be ok OP. I think one night of a few drinks will very likely have no impact, but it will probably make you feel better about it if you have a chat with your midwife. Your 'friend' is a dick though.

What did you say!!! What the hell is wrong with her

That is a disgusting "friend". The fact you have been through ivf to conceive shows you have struggled to naturally conceive and care alot about this pregnancy. I wouldnt give her the time of day again. Chances are baby will be fine though. I got absolutely paralytic the week before I found out I was pregnant and worried all the way to my scan about it. All fine

Thankyou very much for your responses. It's helped reassurance my mind a little. I barely slept last night thinking about the damage I could have done
I haven't spoken to said friend since and I have no intention to. She wasn't drunk and since she clearly remembered I had struggles getting up and down since she offered to get me drinke she can't have forgotten I was pregnant. She claims she forgot. I don't know if she thought it was funny or not but I've told her to fuck off were not friends any more. Quite sad as we've been friends for so long but the fact she did for whatever reason potentially put my baby at harm angers me