How to tell someone

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Not sure where to put this as I am not in a relationship right now.
I am seeing a guy, we’ve been on 4 dates and I’m meant to be seeing him after the new year next week.
I met him off Bumble and we slept together on our last date.
I’ve found out I’m pregnant and really don’t know how to tell him. I’m starting to panic a bit and heart keeps racing every time I think about it.
He did mention wanting to have more kids on our last date, but obviously this was something that’s meant to happen later down the line.
I know I need to prepare myself mentally for the type of reaction he might have, but I honestly don’t know how to tell him.

I don't think you have any obligation to tell him just yet, who knows how this pregnancy will go and if it continues is your decision (though obviously you may want to consider his thoughts).
Have you thought about how YOU want things to proceed?

Were you using contraception that failed, or not using? I don't want to judge you, just might tell you something about how he'd take this news.

@SouthwestSis This sounds terrible but we didn't use anything, and he knew I wasn't on anything. We're not exactly young so didn't think a one off would do anything. Also I don't keep track of the cycle.

I really don't know how to feel about it, I kind of still feel a bit surprised so it's not sunk in yet.

I would just get it out somewhere private as soon as possible. Hopefully he’s mature enough to have a conversation about it and then you can make a decision on how to proceed

Maybe send a text letting him know that you need to speak to him about something. That way he is aware that you have something to say when you meet up - of course if you are ready to tell him.

The as suggested above meet in private or go for dinner then meet somewhere privately and tell him. See his reaction.

How can you not use any protection on a guy you had only met a few times. Think about STIs!! If you do decide to keep it make sure you get yourself tested, certain diseases such as chlamydia can harm a fetus.

There’s no easy way. Just spit it out. Good to know before hand whether you want to continue the pregnancy but be open to how his view may change what you want. He’ll need to time to absorb the info so don’t get in to big long discussion s straight off. Ultimate it’s your decision so don’t expect telling him to lift the burden of responsibility. Good luck.

He had unprotected sex with a fertile woman. I do not mean this is a judgemental way, but quite clearly you are both aware of how children are made, so I do feel like he was clearly willing to take the risk?
again meant in a non judgemental way but you should get tested for stds, because they could effect the baby if you caught anything that either of you weren’t aware you had.
Ultimately, if you don’t use protection these things happen, so don’t take all the responsibility or blame for this (or the baby once it’s here) from him. Do consider what you want to do first, assuming that worst case he won’t be around, and then if you plan to keep the baby, tell him that plan. That may be a bit easier for him to process. Then just leave him with it for a bit, just as you probably had a bit of time to come to terms with it too.

I think whatever you choose to do is totally up to you , my only concern is you dont know him enough yet people are on their best behaviour at the beginning of a relationship, are you prepared to be a single parent if it comes to that or to take on his baggage as it sounds like he already has kids ? I suppose you wont know till you sit down and talk to him.

@theprincessthepea This is what I'm going to do. Not sure if I'll do it this coming week, because I have a big feeling he's not going to have a good reaction.

I also don't want to be a single mum, as bad as that sounds.