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Pregnancy Anxiety after Miscarriage

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Wildflower1990 · 29/12/2023 11:42

So I don’t really have a question and I have never used a forum before but I’m just feeling incredibly lonely and emotional. I’m almost 11 weeks pregnant, our first scan is on the 9th of January. It was around 11 weeks, a week before our first scan back in April that I miscarried so my anxiety is at an all time high. I also previously miscarried last year but between 2-3 weeks. I haven’t let myself get excited or overjoyed and I’ve stayed cleared of purchasing anything baby related or even considered anything baby related. Finally felt a little more real after first midwife appointment last week. On top of those feelings I have had terrible sickness which is all day, something I did expect as I had suffered severely with my first and only child. Anti sickness tablets are helping but it is effecting my mood feeling lousy and no motivation. I have family and I have friends aware of situation and I know they try to be supportive and say not to worry. I’m also not very good at sharing my feelings so I don’t know it seemed easier writing them down and pouring them out to strangers who actually might have experienced the same or are feeling the same way and just want to vent, like myself.

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Whataretheodds · 29/12/2023 12:18

Totally understandable. I am pregnant for the 3rd time (now 35 w) but the first 2 didn't make it out of the 3rd trimester.

Things didn't feel real for me until after the 20w scan. I didn't buy anything for the baby until about 3 weeks ago. Talking about names or anything like that has felt a bit frivolous.

Be kind to yourself.

Hoping4amiracle · 04/01/2024 10:05

Hi OP, it’s natural to feel the way you do and I can tell you that every pregnancy is different, think positive etc etc but I’m sure you have heard all that before.

Im 11 weeks pregnant and I’ve had five losses with no living children. I’m terrified and crippled with anxiety. I think the best I can offer you is a hand hold.

@Whataretheodds i am so sad to read your comment (I mean glad you are 35 weeks now) and can’t imagine how you are feeling. So sad that for some of us the joy gets sucked out of pregnancy xx

MoonIightDreamer · 04/01/2024 15:40

Hi lovely , I completely relate.
I'm currently 12 weeks and this little ivf miracle is a result of 18 years trying .
I had a miscarriage this time last year at 5 weeks and my anxiety this time around is so high. I'm still waiting on my first nhs 12 week scan, don't even have a date for it yet but I've had 2 private scans already. The last at 10 weeks just before Christmas. It eased my anxiety for a few days now I'm back to being full on paranoid something is wrong.
It's such a strange place to be in.
I'm so so happy I'm pregnant. This is all we've ever wanted but at the same time I just feel so depressed because I struggle to accept this can happen for me.
I'm rather just to accepting it's never going to happen

Wildflower1990 · 05/01/2024 11:27

Thanks everyone for nice comments and I’m so sad and sorry to hear some of you feeling the same. My scan is next week, Tuesday, and I’ve gone past the point I was at last miscarriage but I’m still very much on edge. I haven’t let myself indulge in anything baby related or get excited. Sickness has eased off lots since anti sickness tablets but I still feel low in my mood, tired and just no motivation. Being back at work hasn’t helped either, it’s busy and hard work and unfortunately the support is not great - but that’s a different story. Thank you all so much again xx

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MoonIightDreamer · 05/01/2024 15:11

@Wildflower1990 wishing you all the best on Tuesday. My scan is also on Tuesday. I should be 13 weeks then 🤞

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