pregnant and struggling with my husband

[brookeE18]

I don’t know where to begin maybe I just need to rant and get it off my chest, maybe I want to feel like I’m not the only person that’s ever been in this situation too but I’m just really struggling with my husband and our marriage at the moment, I’m 20 weeks pregnant we have a 5 year old and I feel like the past 6 months I have spent my life living with a soul sucking negative miserable old man.. every good thing in our life gets tarnished by my husband and his negative attitude he is always moaning always kicking off and always seems to be shouting at myself or our little boy.. it’s Christmas eve and I’m trying so hard to make it special for our little boy and I’ve spent the day being shouted at and in tears because he is just so argumentative and miserable.. he is always slagging people off or moaning about everyone and everything he doesn’t see a positive in anything and when it all comes to a head he turns it all round on me and tells me I’m the problem, he’s depressed and I am not helping him and I’m just nagging him …I imagine I’m not easy to be around either at the moment I’m not saying I’m totally not to blame in all this but I just feel completely exhausted and done with this ..I look at our child who is so gorgeous and so innocent and wonder why we are still here listening to this man bring us down.. I’m just sad … and I’m exhausted. I work full time I keep on top of the house I do everything to keep my family together and to keep everything positive we have so much to be happy and positive about but when he walks in it’s like a grey cloud ..I don’t know what I’m doing here anymore.. sorry for the rant I just needed to vent to the computer screen it seems haha. Xxx

Sounds awful. My friend said her dh sucked the joy out of life and made her miserable and she also became really negative. Since leaving him age is back to her true self. Always positive. Getting out and about loads.

have you asked him what is problem is? Have you told him to stop speaking to you and your child in that way? Have you told him every time his attitude is unacceptable?

Sounds like he wants to be alone and it will be up to you to make that happen, if not for your own sake then for the sake of your children.

Men ramp up abuse once they think they have you baby trapped, don’t let him get away with that.

He doesn’t deserve you or to have a family. Sending virtual hugs 🤗

Could you go elsewhere for a couple of days just to stop him ruining Christmas 🎄 entirely?

I have asked him so many times. We have the same conversation about it each time it’s almost like Groundhog Day, I feel like we go over and over the same thing all the time, he apologises and agrees his behaviour needs to change he agrees he has been difficult and he knows he is in the wrong and promises us the world again on a platter and says he just feels lost and doesn’t know where to the for help, I have spent months giving him ideas on hobby’s , asking him to speak to his doctor about how he’s feeling get some therapy spend some time with his friends and out and about to lift his mood but he never does.. he changed his tablets a few months ago to see if that helped if anything he’s worse … then we’re right back to square one again.. I’m just tired, I just want to be happy and for our family to be happy again it wasn’t always like this.. it’s really sad x

I have asked him so many times. We have the same conversation about it each time it’s almost like Groundhog Day, I feel like we go over and over the same thing all the time
Then Ask yourself is this the future you want for you and your children? Because doing the same thing over and over with no change is pointless.

your so right, thank you xx