Am I being over sensitive??

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My partner told me he was packing my hospital bag. I said to him that I would like to do it and he called me a control freak. I said 'I think I should be able to pack my own hospital bag' and he said 'yes but a lot of these things end up slipping'.. this really upset me as I spend a lot of time working hard to try to prove myself to him but he keeps saying these kinds things to me and now I'm starting to resent him a little.... if I say anything he gets annoyed and walks off...

not really sure why I'm posting on here - we just keep having things like this come up and I'm finding it hard to deal with.. guess I'm just looking for some advice... am I being over sensitive?? Hormones??

I certainly don't think you're being over sensitive. Why does he think he is better placed to pack your hospital bag than you are?!

That said, it's not a bad thing for you to both know what's in there as he might be diving in there to grab things for you. Perhaps suggest that you do it together? But NOT because you aren't capable, because you might need him to get things for you.

I think it’s probably good for him to do it or at least to do it together since he’s going to be the one finding things most likely. The real issue is that you spend so much time trying to prove yourself to him? Does he often belittle or insult you? was this a one off clumsy comment? Is he right that things slip?
it seems like a good thing that he sees something needs doing and he does it rather than leave it for you, but obviously if he makes you feel bad for it then not so much!

Thankyou . I think what gets to me most is the ' a lot of these things end up slipping' ... I.e when I feel I'm pretty organised and together.. and I definitely try really hard because he often says things like this..he's a very successful businessman and very efficient in general...

We're fighting a lot and my family has gone away for Christmas and 7 months pregnant .... it's really worrying me ... I just tried to talk to him but he said he didn't want to and went to bed.... I just can't seem to cope very well with our arguments...