Pretty sure I’m miscarrying - what do I do?

[CandleRigg89]

So I’m very early along - only about 5 weeks - and I’m pretty sure I’m currently miscarrying. Period like bleeding, period like cramps, loss of symptoms etc.

I have a wild 2.5 year old to keep me busy so I’m mentally ok right now, but I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I don’t have midwife yet, who do I phone? The GP? I’m honestly lost!

Also has anyone else had a miscarriage at 35 and went on to have a successful pregnancy? Would really love a second child.

Contact the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital. They'll be able to help. I'm sorry this is happening and I hope you get through it ok x

As pp said contact the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit and request to be seen. I'm sorry you are going through this. Re your other piping, I had a miscarriage at 40 then a healthy pregnancy straight after, so it's not an indication of your ability to carry just sadly not viable x sending love x

Try the EPU, or your GP. In my area, GP has to refer you to the EPU. There's nothing they can do but good to get a scan to check everything. And so sorry.

"Also has anyone else had a miscarriage at 35 and went on to have a successful pregnancy? Would really love a second child."

Had DS in 2014, aged 29.
MC in 2021
Second MC in 2022
Had DD in April 2023, aged 38.

Take it a day at a time x

Thank you so much everyone.

I was at a funeral today and was a bit surreal all the talk of loss. I just feels like I’m on my period.

I’ll phone the EPU and ask what to do. I doubt they’ll do much this end of Christmas.

Thank you for the words of encouragement too. I’m so thankful for my toddler right now. I just hope it’s meant to be for us in the New Year. I’m 36 in August so feeling nervous about the march of time and wishing we’d tried earlier. It just happened so easily the first time, and we conceived first try this time too. I was naive and not prepared for it go this way. Lesson learned!

Another one here who had a miscarriage at your age then a successful pregnancy with my second shortly after. I'm sure it will happen for you. This is shit though. Having a toddler distracts from how shit it is- do make some time to feel sad or it might surface later (it did for me - not terribly as, like you, it was early so i wasnt too invested- but it's still a sad thing). Hugs to you.

Sorry you are going through this. You can contact epu but they don’t usually see you until after 6 weeks as they won’t see anything on a scan. They may just tell you to retest in a week or so. There really isn’t much you can do unfortunately. Hopefully it’s just some bleeding and everything is ok

@Newnamesameoldlurker thank you, it’s so great to hear you went on to have a successful pregnancy! I think if i was a couple of years younger I wouldn’t feel the same time pressure aspect of it. It’s an awful feeling!

@PickledScrump thank you so much. They’ve said they’ll call me back but I think they’ll likely tell me what you’ve said. It’s a full period bleed now so sure that’s what it is! I found out very early as this was our first cycle trying. Any other month I may just have thought my period was late!

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had 2 early losses at age 37 and 38 (2 cycles in a row with my birthday in the middle) and then the following cycle I got pregnant again and she’s 4 months on Thursday.

my losses were both just before 6 weeks (5+6 weeks) so they wouldn’t do anything about it as in our area they don’t scan until 6 weeks. Both times it was like an extra heavy more painful period

@allgoodthings84

I’m so sorry you’ve dealt with losses too, but so happy you’ve got your gorgeous baby!

Yeah they won’t do much. Two paracetamol, if it gets worse 111 but ultimately it is what it is. Will just have to manage it myself.

Sorry to hear this is happening to you.

I had miscarriages at 38 and 39 and my third baby at 40. Time is still on your side x

It's horrible, I'm sorry. If you're 5 weeks and not dizzy, and bleeding is manageable then no need to contact gp or hospital.
Hopefully next time lucky

I'm so sorry OP. I've had three losses myself so I can empathise. It's thoroughly rubbish and sad, please be kind to yourself. I would let the GP know if for nothing else than you have it on your record. If it happens again then it's vital to have it on your record so you get appropriate support (it is unlikely to happen again, the overwhelming chances are you will go onto have a successful pregnancy) but get it recorded.

Sending lots of hugs.

Yes, lost at 36 (second pg) and went on to have DS at 37. He's now 8!

Thank you so much for your replies.

It’s so sad knowing so many have experienced losses but I’m happy to hear you went on to have happy healthy children afterwards!

This is really shitty but definitely manageable at home. Tea, nighttime pads on a hot water bottle are helping. Curled up on the couch! The cramps are mild enough that I can focus on tv etc. It seems crazy we’re just left to get on with it at home, I feel like medical science should have found a way to at least make this a quicker and less painful process by now!