Feeling bad about my weight during pregnancy?

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I'm feeling quite sensitive about my weight at the moment , I was 52kg prior to pregnancy at 60kg at 28 weeks, so I've gained 8kg so far.

This evening unprompted my MIL started talking about not overeating in pregnancy, staying active and not sleeping too much etc. And explained I'll struggle to get the weight off. I just hit a raw nerve as im trying to stay active , im probably eating a little more than usual but opt for healthier snacks and I am having the occasional nap as im exhausted to the point I feel sick.

Has anyone else felt this way at all and felt anxious about the weight not coming off afterwards ?

Firstly - you are growing your child tell MIL to get TF away

Secondly; the weight gain you have isn't even a lot. I don't know how you carry weight / your body type before pregnancy - but it can be easy to get the weight gain off.
Some people do find it harder but as long as you are healthy and your baby is healthy that is the most important thing ... how does MIL know you'll struggle to get it off?
Maybe you'd like to keep the Gaines weight after the baby? Maybe you won't? How does your MIL know - she sounds rude!

I was the same weight as you before pregnancy and the midwives were telling me to put more weight on as I wasn't gaining enough - if the midwives haven't raised any concerns and you're not concerned don't worry - I honestly wouldn't listen to your MIL

The weight is mainly in my breasts , stomach , hips and thighs ... maybe a bit in my face too. My usual body type is petite I'm 5ft 3in x

She needs to butt out. So rude. I'm 5 foot. I was 9st when I got pregnant. I was 11st 7 when I gave birth. 6 weeks post birth 10st 6 and around 9 months post birth back to 9st. No concerns from anyone medical looking after me. There opinion should matter. Hers does not.

Take no notice of her, you have not got a problem. In her own way, she probably thinks she is helping (she probably does not realise she is not, and maybe does not mean to be hurtful) Likely she will come out with plenty more "advice" as time goes on. All well meaning, all very irritating.

I gained 6st when I was pregnant last year. I've lost 5st this year. The most important thing is you and the baby get the nutrients you need. It will come off.
Tell her that. X

I’m 5ft 2, 50kg pre pregnancy and with my first I went up to 10.5 stone, with this pregnancy I am 37 weeks and weighed 63kg at my appointment last week. My MIL made similar comments.

With DD I lost a stone just by giving birth. I lost another stone within a few months by going back to my normal lifestyle. At my booking appointment with this pregnancy almost 2 years after giving birth I was back to 50kg.

Ignore her. You’ll be fine. Pregnancy is hard, especially for small framed people, puts a lot of pressure on a small area! So eat and do what you want. You have the rest of your life after to lose the weight (if you want to!).

I'm 5'2" and have gained more weight than you have. Nobody has dared to comment on it though! Losing the majority of the weight is very easy if you breastfeed for a decent length of time, or at least that was my experience.

Tell her next time to mind her own business. I was slimmest I have been a month after giving birth as I was breastfeeding, eating healthy and going for walks with my DD. I wouldn't worry about it yet as you have so many other things with pregnancy to think about.

She sounds very rude. I am 5ft 4 and was 9 stone when I got pregnant and just over 11 stone the week I gave birth.

I am 3.5 weeks post partum, I have not been watching what I eat or doing any real exercise yet and I have already lost a stone.

Your weight gain sounds well within normal range, pay no attention to her.

Weight is such a personal thing in pregnancy.
I am overweight pre pregnancy (not hugely) and currently 32+3 weeks . I am up to just 3kg prepregnancy weight and I am praised. Told to not put more in if I can?!

Yet midwife's would likely be worried if I was smaller with this weight gain.

You literally cannot win unfortunately and someone will always have something to say.
Just adds more pressure on our plate (pun intended haha)

It’s always rude to talk negatively about someone else’s weight and appearance when you were not invited to do so. For some reason people think that doesn’t apply to pregnant women. You or your DP need to make it clear to MIL that her opinions are unwelcome. Better you learn to do this now because I’m sure she’ll have lots more ‘advice’ as time goes on.
if the trained medical professionals are happy then you just concentrate on yours and the baby’s health and happiness and not on MILs shallow concerns about your appearance.

Try not to worry about it. You really haven’t gained much in any case! I was about 8st before my first and gained 3st! I was back to my normal weight within about 6 months, with no conscious effort. I haven’t quite got back to my original weight after my second but now pregnant with third, so not worrying about it yet.

50kg before.
70kg day gave birth.

Lost 12kg just giving birth ( baby 4kg, liquid, placenta, other stuff).
Remaining 8kg disappeared within a few weeks of breastfeeding.

It was all pretty much baby, and boobs weight.

I gained about 15 kg and lost that plus 10 kg more by 10 days postpartum. I also slept a lot. Please relax about your weight gain and just focus on eating healthy. Your weight gain also sounds fine. Ignore the sour MIL.