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AIBU to take a day off work tomorrow?

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Ceebeebee87 · 10/12/2023 19:01

I’m 23 weeks pregnant and I had HG which has landed me in hospital a couple of times, I’m raising a 21 month old and just before I got pregnant I took on a promotion at work. I’ve had a difficult couple of weeks at work where I feel like I’m expected to give 110%, I seem to be accumulating more work and all I feel like all I’m doing is putting the needs of others first. In return I’m just getting complaints from staff. I feel a bit invisible like no one has taken into consideration that I’m pregnant. Today it all got a bit to much and I had what can only be described as a melt down and a panic attack at home. I feel completely burnt out and want to take tomorrow off but I was in a meeting last week where they said the number of sicknesses is way above national average and it make me feel guilty about ever taking another sick day. Am I being unreasonable for taking the day off tomorrow?

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ClemFandangooo · 10/12/2023 19:04

YANBU, put yourself first!

BabyD6 · 10/12/2023 19:53

Absolutely not! Take the day off for yourself! You’ll feel better for it! Your health comes first xx

Sunshineclouds11 · 10/12/2023 19:55

Self cert for a week. Even better

Blueroses99 · 10/12/2023 19:58

Pregnancy related absence can’t be treated the same as other types of absence so don’t worry about increasing the averages (should be excluded or counted separately). Take the time you need.

afrikat · 10/12/2023 19:59

Personally I'd take a week rather than a day

ttcsolomumtobe · 10/12/2023 21:28

I agree with others, take the week off.

I recently planned to take one day off after having a rough working week (no-where near the stress you are saying you are under) and then a weekend of barely sleeping but the one day just didn't help because I felt guilty yet the next day still shattered. To really make a difference and give yourself a good chance of improving how you feel and getting some decent rest and maybe a week away from work your employers will realise how much you were taking on

ActDottie · 10/12/2023 22:27

Put yourself first.

I’ve worked about 50% of the time since 7 weeks pregnant as the sickness has been so bad.

I said to my midwife I was worried I’d run out of sick pay and she said “if you’re ill you’re ill there’s nothing you can do and you have to put yourself first” which has kinda made me take each day as it comes.

Currently 35 weeks and not sure if I’ll be working tomorrow and putting no pressure on myself to work. Some days I feel rough in the morning but manage a bit of work in the afternoon etc.

Be kind to yourself and if you’re not up for working tomorrow then don’t.

hayu19 · 10/12/2023 22:33

I was signed off work from 10 weeks with HG put yourself first and all the best with the rest of your pregnancy.

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Ceebeebee87 · 11/12/2023 06:39

Thanks everyone for your responses. They have definitely made me feel better, I think I just need to hear from someone else that I need to put myself first because people at work won’t say that. Sorry to hear a lot of you have been sick too. Just goes to show you how tough pregnancy can be ❤️

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TheIndecisiveElf · 11/12/2023 06:57

Check the time they measure your hours for, can't remember when it starts and stops but I think it's close.

If it won't affect your mat pay, then definitely take at least a week. My biggest regrets about my HG pregnancies were not putting my health first. No one at work was even really appreciative but it really took a toll and made everything harder when beginning leave at I was starting from empty.

And yes, pregnancies, plural- I didn't learn from it but you should!

Couggstar123 · 11/12/2023 10:40

Absolutely do not go to work if you’re struggling. I got signed off weeks 10&11 cos I was so physically and mentally drained and just couldn’t face 12 hour nightshifts. And that was without HG!!!

You need to put yourself and your baby first and your stress levels are clearly very high. My GP signed me off without question and it was the best thing for me. Meant I went back to work when I was ready with a much clearer mind (and a healthy dose of rest!) Yes I initially felt guilty being off sick but it honestly did me the world of good.

Please be kind to yourself, these weeks are not easy and work will be there when you go back! Take care!

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 11/12/2023 13:02

Blueroses99 · 10/12/2023 19:58

Pregnancy related absence can’t be treated the same as other types of absence so don’t worry about increasing the averages (should be excluded or counted separately). Take the time you need.

Are they saying your number of sick days are above average? Because under the Maternity Act 1999, pregnancy related sickness must be recorded separately to other sickness, and cannot be used against you. So all your time off with HG doesn't "count".

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