Very surprise 4th pregnancy

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I’ve just found out I am pregnant with our 4th child very unexpectedly (I’ve had the coil in place for nearly 1.5 years!) I’m in genuine shock and only took a test as I’ve been feeling quite unwell for the past couple of weeks.

Our 3 are all under 6 and our youngest is nearly 2.

I’m absolutely panicked. I have always wanted a larger family but was coming round to the idea of 3 being the magic number. Financially we are pushing our limits but we do have enough space, a big enough car and all the practical things you would need to think about. I have just gone into a job I love with my long term career in mind (literally 3 weeks ago !!!). I think I’m just terrified. I don’t know if I have enough energy left in me for another baby (which sounds awful, I know but we have 3 under 6 and that is …a lot!). I’m young ish though, which is on my side.

Has anyone been in this position? I need some calming words!

What a shock! Give yourself time to digest this and get used to the idea.

It sounds like early stage so I’d consider your options carefully and discuss with dh. You do have options- I don’t think anyone would judge if you decided the timing of another baby isn’t right for you right now x

On a practical note- it’s best to have your coil removed immediately (see Gp)

Good luck whatever you decide

Good luck whatever you decide.

Deep breaths - you have a bit of time, so take a pause.

Whatever you decide is best for you and your existing family is fine. There is no right or wrong decision.

Open the conversation with your partner. You may both go back and forward a bit, so you should both try and be tolerant to that. It is ultimately your decision, but if it can be one you are both signed up to or at least understand that is optimal.

It sounds like you will be fine! Once the shock wears off. People say going from 3-4 is nowhere near as bad as going from 1-2.