Scan anxiety following MMC

[HP89]

I have an early scan this evening and I feel like I am going to explode with anxiety. Not usually an anxious person at all.
last year I had an MMC at 9 weeks the week before Christmas, went for an early scan and no heartbeat. It’s December again and I’m 7 weeks.
I can’t talk myself into the “it’ll be fine whatever happens” mindset, I just feel like it will be awful :(

Not really sure why I’m posting. Haven’t told anyone other than husband this time so can’t really share with friends.

I was in your position in Jan and currently sat staring at my newborn. Nothing anybody can say will get rid of the fear but you just have to take every appointment as it comes. I was lucky to have a straight forward pregnancy until 34 weeks but everything turned out fine. You've got this

Congratulations! It is a worrying time and you'll always be concerned about any twinge, pain or scan/midwife appointment when you've had losses - I've had more than my fair share, but have 2 healthy children now and although I'm sad to have been through a rough time, I'm looking from the other side and know it's sometimes just time and the right egg / sperm interaction. Good luck and try to remember that worrying won't help, but seeing your baby growing regularly will really be a
Thing for you - you know you can get pregnant and it's more likely you'll be absolutely fine this time around - will look forward to your positive update later on x

Hi @HP89 im feeling exactly the same i’m 7+3 we have MMC in April , we had a scan which should of been 8-9 weeks but it had stoped 7-8 weeks . I have booked a private scan for 9 weeks but absolutely dreading going but also excited and hoping everything will be ok this time as they say back to back MMC are rare but i know people it’s happend but also know people who had their rainbow baby … its so difficult waiting and feeling so anxious and no control !

I have been in your position and the anxiety is awful. The only way out is through - you can't predict what will happen, being "prepared for the worst" won't make it any easier if the worst does happen. Just try to distract yourself and keep as calm as you can. I feel for you, it's a difficult position to be in xxx

Hope it all goes so well

I hope it goes well! This is me tomorrow. Should be 9 weeks and keeping everything crossed. I had a mmc in July and found out at 11 weeks. Panicking about everything at the minute!

Wow thanks so much for the encouraging replies! Sad to see how many of us go through miscarriages, life doesn’t seem fair!

Scan was all good! Measuring exactly to where I thought I was. Had a little tear of happiness when she said it had a nice strong heartbeat of 140bpm. Can’t quite believe it as never let myself ‘feel’ pregnant/ acknowledge it. She said that at around 7 weeks with a strong heartbeat the MC rate drops from 20% to 10%, so I am holding onto that for now.

Really liked the ‘only way out is though’ thank you @MsFrog

Good luck with your scans @JJM13 @Balb1993 , Come back and update us!

@Balb1993 how did it go?

I'm 28 weeks tomorrow and after a 16 week MMC last pregnancy I'm still terrified of scans & I have them every 2 weeks. Feeling movement now reassures me but if I haven't had a swift kick before a scan I still think the worst. It's awful.

It went really well thank you! Measuring 9 weeks exactly and heartbeat of 178. So relieved. I hope I can try and keep a bit more positive this time. Thank you for asking 🥰 hoping everything continues to go well for us all x

I needed to read this thread. Currently 5+3 with an early scan booked on 21st Dec. Had a MMC in April at 11+4, a CP in Sept and a MC/query ectopic at 7wks at Halloween. Wasn't TTC this month - had planned a break until the new year while awaiting fertility appointment... Must have ovulated a bit late and... Here we are! I've been mostly in a state of shock so far but this evening the worry has hit me. I think because I've started to believe it and hope more. 😬😌 It's mad because I know worrying won't change anything but gosh it's hard.

So happy to hear the happy updates on this thread. Thanks for providing some hope 🙏🏼🌈

Amazing! So happy for you! X

Hi @SnookyPook ,
I recognise your name from another thread. Maybe the TTC section? Sorry to read about all your losses.
Glad the thread could be of help, felt like the ramblings of a crazy woman when I wrote it but it shows that MN can be a really lovely supportive community ❤️
congratulations on your pregnancy, hope it all goes well for you and would love to hear how you get on X